8 habits that make a strong and healthy relationship. 451

A romantic relationship between two people is unlike any other in life. You can have multiple friends and colleagues, but you can (or should) only have one “significant other.” And trust me on this, habits can have a powerful impact on your relationship. Once you put the habits into practice the eventually become an act of unconsciousness.  You need to work to make sure that your relationship grows strong and stay strong.

I have a list of few simple and easy habits to prop up a happy and healthy twosome.

1. The key ingredient……Respect 

Showing respect towards your partner is the first milestone that you have to achieve in the journey of being and maintaining a healthy relationship. It’s a habit worth creating and practising as it is the key element for a happy, healthy and long lasting bonding. You may have different viewpoints towards life but it does not mean you should degrade and disrespect your partner and put him down.

2. A must, once in a day……Reconnect

For a happy and long lasting relationship reconnecting with your partner over the day is very crucial. It can be as simple as sending a loving text or making a call to your partner as and when you get little free time from the busy schedule. Be more creative and try to focus on ways to reconnect with your partner. Couples who commit to prioritizing time to be together and shows affection are definitely the happiest.

3. Say a big No to….Comparison

We often compare our lives with other – what jobs people have, their homes, clothes etc. And with the help of social media, we have started to compare the relationships as well. Be content with what you have. Every person is unique in its own way and has their own style of expressing. Do not compare it with others. Comparing yourself to other couples is a recipe for disaster. Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

4. The most crucial one…..Communication

Communicating with your partner plays an important role in maintaining a healthy relationship. Make a habit of discussing even the silly topics. Communicating makes you move ahead in your relationship whether it’s expressing your love every single moment or be any issue, communicate it all with our partner. In order to move forward and grow, you two need to be able to truly talk about your feelings.

5. Helping helps….Work together

It’s always fun when you work together for your home whether being cooking or cleaning. It’s the perfect opportunity to spend the quality time together. It builds a strong connection between a couple. It’s fine to enjoy little distractions, but it’s crucial to make sure you two are still engaging while working and spending quality time together to maintain a deep connection.

6. The magic word….Appreciation

Often we forget to let our partner know that how much we appreciate them. We do think it but do not remember to express. So appreciate your partner, it’s as simple as that. You can leave a love note before going to work or bring flowers at home or any other thing. Remember that a flower a day keep the fights at bay.

7. The wonderful feeling….Hold & Hug

Couples should just take out a little time each morning and night just to hold each other. Give a hug before leaving for work or hug before sleeping at night, kiss goodbye before leaving to work etc. Making out time to make eye contact with your partner and kiss them, shows that you prioritize your relationship even during the busiest of mornings or evenings. This is a wonderful way to start and end your day.

8. Be wise on….Disagreements

There will be times when you can disagree with your partner or certain issues but do not try to let down each other. Choose and solve your battles wisely instead of arguing and yelling. Differences of opinion had to be there in a relationship so it’s important to bring the issues to the forefront and walk through the hard times together. Don’t let small issues grow into big quarrels.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.