A Letter to a Woman From Another Woman 7

To my dear stay at home friend,

I know, how you feel and I can understand. When people ask you, “what do you do at home?” I know, how you work so endlessly from the time you wake up and till you go to bed and you are on your feet continuously doing the endless chorus. I know, you work 24/7 and yet, there is no much appreciation nor do you expect them. I know, even being at home, how you cannot even scrap a minute, to just sit and sip your cup of tea relaxed, because everyone wants you for every single work, not to mention the wailing toddler. I know, how you feel when you hear about your other corporate friends having a feast and enjoying time in their workplace, it may make you think, “what am I doing?” I know, it’s not easy to take care of things at home as well as get things done from out. I know, you are stronger than anyone else and how you are misunderstood of your strengths. I know, the feeling of disrespect every time you are taken for granted. Yet you keep moving on.

I admire you, for your strengths, for your positivity to keep going and keeping up with the family. I don’t know how you do it every day with so much patience to make everyone happy and yet not expect anything for yourself. I understand, how you feel dear friend because we both are a woman and we want same things.

Whatever you do, do it because it makes you happy and not because you are forced to do it. Know that you are the best.

-Love, from your Working friend

To my dear working friend,

I know how you feel every day when you step out of the door wanting some more time. I know and I understand the frustration you feel that if your child ate his or her food properly or not because you were supposed to be in an early meeting. I know and I understand how helpless you feel when people judge you for your skills in being a mother. I know, you love your children and want to do the best for them just like any other mother. I know, that you wait for the evenings just to return home and spend the time with your children and family, even though you are tired for the day. I know and I understand when you try to wake up earlier than anyone else just so, you can keep everything ready for everyone before you go to work. You are there everywhere I go. The doctor I meet, my child teacher, the accountant in my bank, our family therapist visiting our house to take care of the old. You are there, helping us every day. I know, how bad you feel when you could not attend your child PTM or a monthly sport/event. I know, how you skip visiting your parents on the weekends if they are in the same town, simply because you have a whole week of piled up work to take care. I know, the numerous guilt you carry, for not being there when a family is in need. But my dear friend, know this, you are wonderful. You have set an example to your children and to the world that a woman can be successful in her career, yet she can manage her family life. I admire your strength and the attitude of not giving up. Hang in there! dear friend, we may cross our paths some day and we shall sing together the joy of being a woman.

-Love, from your stay at home friend

To all the woman out there!

Wherever you are, whatever you do, do what makes you happy and not what you are forced, based on the society demands. Enjoy life in every moment!!

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.