Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Na kijo 2

Yesterday, while surfing through my facebook account, I came across a very interesting quote; it mentioned about the transformation and sacrifices of a woman. We Indians so proudly designate a woman as a daughter, sister, friend, wife, and mother but forget the fact that she is a human first.

Binding her in relations which demand her to make sacrifices have been made as the protocol of her life, but I’m not here to start my ‘morcha’ on feminism, what brings me to write this is the lack of appreciation that women face despite making great sacrifices.

I was listening to our Prime Minister’s quote where he mentioned, “ Nari tu Narayani hai” which means a woman is a deity i.e. being born in the anatomy of female makes you a Goddess and why not, she is the only one who can make sacrifices, leave her own house and accepts a new family as her own and not to forget, can create a new life within her. But, my question here is, does her new family accepts here the way she is?

My Dear New Family

I am here to make you dear,

But I have my own fears;

I’m new to start a whole new family, it’s a new life and new people so, please forgive if I make any mistake.

Your

New Addition

I guess these lines clearly define what goes through a girl when she gets married. Although our society is changing but still, a major state of our society continues to live by the old school of thoughts where a girl is always considered as an outsider.

Her dreams and desires are all defined by the family where she will be living her life.  So, why can’t she be accepted as a family member? Why not you become her parents and not just guardians and treat her equal? Why not make the life easier?

When a girl comes into a new family, you expect her to change as per her new family members, what if, each member of her new family change themselves 1% and she also changes herself according to them, don’t you think life will be easier for both.

She needs love and care, money and materials can be earned. Treat her as a life and not as a commodity. Remember, she was also born a daughter to someone, just like your son, she too was living to fulfil the dream of her parents . Give her the freedom to express and accept her opinions just like you do for your son. Don’t make her the queen of the house but at least give her the priority to express herself.

Speak less, don’t raise your voice, we don’t do it this way, we don’t follow this tradition, we don’t eat this and that, etc. etc. etc. are some common jargons which become the part of her life. Please exempt her from all this, allow her to speak her heart, let her stand for what is right, support her and at the same time advise her when she is wrong ad trust me you will not have a daughter-in-law rather you will have a daughter living with you.

I know it would have been too heavy to read such heart-pounding lines but trust me most of the women in our country are living this life, killing their dreams every day. Her new life should bring new hopes and new dreams and not end what she had always wanted. If you are blessed with a good life, it’s time that you spread the awareness and guide those who are still dwelling in the dungeons of old thoughts.  Help to change the dialogue from, “ Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Na Kijo” to “Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Hi Kijo.” Coz somebody’s Bitiya becomes your Bahu.

 

Previous ArticleNext Article
social avatar
I am a blogger by profession but writer by heart. I believe that life is meant to be lived to the fullest and i try to implement the same in my style of writing and my way of living.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Dating is cooler than a Relationship….Do you think so?? 1036

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

  1. A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

  1. It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

  1. You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

  1. You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

  1. You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

  1. You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

What Nirbhaya wants to appeal today for Praduman!! 4543

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.

Do it for me…for Praduman..for….for….

Do it so that there will be no more Nirbhayas and Pradumans…EVER!