Backbiting – a recreational activity for few. 3

It was just a coincidence that I had a heartbreaking exposure to few painful statements by my colleagues at office and I came across an awesome quote on social media as if God answered me and showed me a way out.

The quote said,

Excuse me, here’s your nose. I found it in my business.

And I was really inspired to write my observations to you.

Backbiting is the most common ‘Viral’ disease that’s found everywhere because its content gets viral without any media or channel 😉 . And as a part of this society, this is our right to find faults in whomsoever, we may want to.

Talking about jurisdiction of gossips and backbiting, it varies from looks, personal & professional lives to social behavior and everything you do or think under the sun. Let me talk about few-

Looks: –

If you are good looking, wear trendy colorful clothes, then you are always ready for the party. If you dress up in simple attires then you lack dress sense.

If you look charming, then you are very conscious about your skin, hair etc. you might be a spendthrift, if you are having any problem regarding your skin, hair and looks then you are a miser to spend some money for maintaining good looks.

Oh…dear gossipers! Please take a break!

Personal life: –

Gossipers need to poke their nose in every issue no matter how personal it is!! The irresistibility of the topic is directly proportional to the depth of it’s being personal. 😉 More the personal, more spicy it is!!

If you have some dispute with your spouse or family, you will find fewer people to help solve it but many ‘those’ types are there to enlarge the pit of conflict. You will be surely entitled to all the blames as soon as you leave the place.

Office gossip: –

Ahha…the most wider one!! There is soooo of much time people have in your office to discuss your faults and inefficiencies.

If you are favorite to your Boss, you are a pleaser and a super buttering guy.

If carefree, then a doodle.

Miscellaneous gossip:-

Any girl that is picked up or dropped by her friend that happens to be a boy, is definitely her boyfriend.

Girls who are chirpy & friendly and God forbid, if in short clothes, high heels, colored streaks are ultra modern, freely available and those introverts with simple looks is a ‘behenji’ type who really lacks dressing sense….and everything else. 😐

Behavior chart: –

If you like to smile often, you are tested on set norms for youth. If you don’t smile, you are arrogant and proudy.

Any change(good, bad) in your behavior is a matter of investigation. Indian relatives are very judgemental and are under the burden of saving society from the western impact, so you can’t protect yourself from their conversations. Your behavior with parents, siblings, home care, cooking, hygiene all is viewed microscopically and in comparison with their wards mostly named like, Monty, Goldy, Simmi, Sandy and Sweety. ‘Hamare bacche to aise,vaise, kamaal’ and so on. After effects of their arrival last long and most of the time result in mummy’s favorite emotional dialogue accompanied with wet eyes “ humne tumhare liye kya nahi kia, fir bhi logo ki baatein sun ni padti hae”. 😉

On serious notes, my point of writing this was only to …Let ‘them’ go to hell and just be yourself.

No one is perfect so why not confuse them with your mysterious smile.:)

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Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1373

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.


Movie Review: SIMRAN 2777

Queen, Tanu Weds Manu, Tanu Weds Manu Returns and now Simran, Kangna is on a rout, she has proven time and again that she is one of the best actresses available today. She has made a mark for herself in the film industry synonymous to that made by Sridevi, that, of doing movies which are female-centric, of movies which revolve around themselves (Judaai, Chaalbaz, Lamhe, Laadla to name a few). The only difference though being, all the movies had an extremely strong supporting cast. Kangna has to be given accolades to run a movie entirely on her very own shoulders, and this is not the first time either, we bow to you Kangna, you deserve the Best Actress Award for this one.

Kangna who plays Praful Patel is a gujju girl staying in Atlanta who likes herself be called as Prafff. Praf has a typical Gujarati accent and all my Gujju friends are going to love the Gujarati dialogues the movie carries, I know Gujarati and so I enjoyed it thoroughly.

Kangna is introduced from a housekeeping scene mopping and wiping floors and tables, there is just so much genuineness in that scene, it’s great to watch her there. When she goes to Vegas, her sleazy lines such as “are you tired, because you were running in my mind” are some great moments that bring about here innocence and wickedness both out at the same time.

In the red dress in Vegas, she looks gorgeous, she dazzles and ravishes like a diva and is super cute when she puts on her very native gujju accent “Halo, I aem Praeffff…” she just steals your attention away throughout the movie. A song in the movie titled “Lagdi Hai Thaai” sung by Guru Randhawa aptly describes what Simran is in the movie.

The best thing about this movie is that it has a good storyline and director Hansal Mehta pulls it off amazingly with Kangna. The first hour of the movie just zips its way through with Kangna showcasing her bubbly self, her expressions at an expensive store, her bargaining at the street shop and then her equivalence of the pink champagne and fries at the bartender, there are too many funny and hilarious moments. It’s the second half that becomes a tad serious but since the movie is almost 2 hrs, it doesn’t feel to be stretched at any point of time.

There are some points where you wonder if it is really possible to learn a bank robbery from YouTube and execute a heist, but those go in the movie stride and you really don’t mind these.

The movie touches important points related to the American Dream that much of our Indian Community has and exposes that it might not be true for everyone, it may turn out to be just a Dream for some. The nagging father of Kangna performs well and Sohum Shah is where I think a popular Bollywood actor would have benefited more, but Sohum looks original, he is simple and he looked like a studios guy from a small town in Gujarat, he does justice to his role.

But it’s Kangna and Kangna and Kangna stealing away the show, she is setting new benchmarks which are extremely difficult to surpass when it comes to ACTING. She is fantabulous and the heart of this movie.

She carries it on her shoulders all alone and she delivers a power-packed punch.

Music is good and hummable.

There is actually no one else to talk about in the movie, the movie has absolutely no supporting cast, but trust me, it wasn’t needed as well. The movie is about Simran, and it talks about Simran, hats off to Kangna, this one’s a Kohinoor in the QUEEN’S CROWN. 🙂

All in all, it’s an extremely light and a different movie with awesome Acting by Kangna. Watch it for Kangna.

Rating: 3.5/5.0

(0.5 points extra only and only for Kangna)