Benefits of growing up with Brothers !

I was born as a first child to my parents, followed by two brothers in next 5 years. Like all other siblings, we also grew up together playing, leg pulling and of course fighting with each other. My bonding with both of them was strong but as being eldest, I was bossy most of the time and had little, in fact, no understanding. But as we three grew and reached the teenage, I gradually developed that extra understanding of their behaviour.

In school too, I became more comfortable in the company of boys of my class than the girls. Further, in my life when I started my career, I faced various challenges in this male dominant society and I am proud that I overcame them brilliantly. Sometimes, my female colleagues would ask, how I am so easy with males in office, without giving them ” wrong signals or having any pangas” and ” how come they are so nice to you without any ego or jealousy “, and I would say “the answer is my brothers”.

My childhood would have been incomplete without the company of my two brothers. Had they been girls( mine sisters) I can bet it would not have been that great! wink no offences, please!

I am not that girlie stuff that enjoyed on Barbies, their clothes and makeup and doll houses or their marriage, rather I was the one who would play football, basketball and cricket quite easily. Even my favourite magazines were “Sportstars” and “Topgear”. Copying WWF stunts to make other one feel as a loser was common. Kite flying and playing with its string was normal. In all, the games and all the daring “panga’s” were very easy for me. This all made me good sportsperson, not like those girls who would get hurt if the ball hit their nails and in case they do not win, would simply surrender.

They definitely taught me how to rebel and not a mute spectator if something is not right, though they were my protectors always, but to accept other’s nonsense, is not acceptable ever. No doubt, I have always gone a step further to handle problems or face situations, since I know if anything goes wrong, my brothers are there for me on my side always! wink !

Boys hardly express their love as girls or my sisters would have done, but for sure they love more than you expect from them. As grown ups, they would go out with their friends exploring new places, eateries and fun experiences. They would also bring back the food in a packing for me since they knew I was at home with parents and as for the society, girls do not have so much independence to roam about with her friends.

With them, I can talk anything from relationships, social issues, political issues, sports and entertainment. I have always understood their perspective on the topic of the discussion and even appreciated their views. Most of the time this constructive conversation has been truly valuable to me since it helps me to debate on certain topics publicly with correct facts.

Now that I am married and they are not (just about to), we four ( me, my husband n two brothers) hang out so nicely together. We four have lovely memories travelling to different places together, eating and partying together and yes, not to forget all the daring “pangas” together. I hope their wives also become the part of this gang and we may have fun together.

May God bless them always, for making my life so special and full of love and affection. They have made me strong, bold and daring. Whenever I see two sisters, I wonder ” I am really not that sister girlie type”, lol zzz.

Sheena

A Perfect Leo by birth, Content Writer by Choice, Manager with 10 years of experience by chance, Proud mother of two jewels, Pampered wife, Honorary Orator, Public Speaker, Life explorer, Life Counsellor, Passionate Reader, A big-time Foodie, Highly patriotic, Love all living beings and Fear only one God ( the creator)

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16^th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.