Born to break the stereotype. 2

“She has rejected this boy too. Don’t know what is she looking for? ” Shivi’s mom said cryingly.

“Do you think Ranbir Kapoor will come to ask for your hand from us to marry you?” asked her father. The anger was quite evident in his tone.

Shivi who was quietly listening to all the taunts softly replied,” I am not waiting for anyone to come and marry me. I want to find myself before I find anyone else.”

His father lost his temper badly on getting this reply from Shivi and shouted, ” Enough of this finding myself drama Shivi. We are tired of it.”

Shivi was still cool and quite clear in her speech as if she was undisturbed by the storm going in her house at this moment.”

She calmly replied,” Even I am tired of meeting strangers and then telling them that I am not ready for marriage yet.”

A terrific silence filled the atmosphere and Shivi went to her room. She didn’t cry neither she was upset. She spent rest of the evening in her room and went out in the hall around dinner time to find out that hall is completely dark. She lit the light and was almost scared to death to see her mother on the couch as she wasn’t expecting anyone to be in the dark hall.

She tried to avoid the conversation at first but she wasn’t liking it either to see her parents in this condition and more so when she knew the reason of their sadness is she, herself.

Mom, look at me. Do you think I am a curse? Shivi asked her mom.

“What are you saying, you stupid girl.” Shivi’s mother hugged her tightly.

“Why will you say such things Shivi. No matter how much we are angry but you will always remain the apple of our eyes.”

“I know mom, you and dad love me more than you love yourself.”

Things were not normal completely but it was at least that much normal for everyone to sit on the dinner table and ate food quietly.

Shivi’s dad broke the silence and asked her,” Is there anyone you are looking for or maybe you are waiting for the right moment to tell us. I know I have asked this question several times in the past three years but I want to know the real reason for your denial to all the matches we have found suitable for you.”

“Her mother asked her in shivering tone as if she will die of heart attack if her worst fears come true, are u lesbian?”

Whaaattt? Shivi shouted in utter shock. ” Of course not, no mom. Just because I am not ready to marry that doesn’t describe my choice of sexuality.” Shivi left the hall in outrage this time. Both her parents sat perplexed.

Next day morning the house was still silent. It wasn’t a usual morning. It was a silence before the storm.

Shivi had prepared her mom’s favourite Upma in the breakfast and have cooked perfect grilled sandwiches for her dad.

At the breakfast table, before anyone could shoot a question to her, she said, ” Dad, you have asked this several times before and I am sorry I kept quiet and have avoided the answer in all these years. Maybe I wasn’t ready to answer but I think I am ready to answer it now.”

Her mom and dad have waited impatiently to hear the reason for her denial to all 15 marriage proposals.

She continued,”Ma, I want to live my life before I surrender it to someone else. I don’t see myself as a wife or a mother as of now. I can’t share my life till I find out what’s the purpose of my life. I want to live. I am still learning through my experiences and I have a long to-do list that I want to complete and marriage is nowhere on that list as of now.”

Shivi said it in one go and her parents were baffled. It wasn’t easy for them to digest that 26years old girl saying marriage is nowhere on her list.

Her mother said,” I was your mother at the age of 23. I never had this to-do list. Your dad has never stopped me from anything but I always knew my boundaries and I have lived within them and so does everyone do.”

“Thank you, Ma, for solving this for me. Now I know, I am born to break the stereotype.”

Her parents gave her a scornful look.

But Shivi continued,” I have decided I want to travel this world. I can’t see myself confined to one place. I want to meet strangers and learn about their country and their culture. I want to lay on the sand and spent the night watching the starry sky and a lot more I want to do.”

Her father asked,” Who will finance your travel Shivi? Marry someone who can make your dream possible.”

Shivi knew it’s just another attempt of her father to persuade her to marry and get settled down.

She replied,” Dad, you have raised me to an independent woman and I can’t marry someone just to fulfil my dreams and desire. I have another plan you don’t worry about my finance.”

She then showed them an email sent by a tour and travels company who wants to hire Shivi as their travel blogger and for that, they were ready to pay her a handsome salary and also to finance all her travels.

Her parents weren’t happy to see this and Shivi could sense it.

She packed her bags and before saying bye she said, “Mom, I just don’t want to be a another girl. I just can’t sigh and say I want to live my life. Rather I want to be a girl who follow her own dreams and breathe life.”

She further continued,”I know it will be difficult for you to understand that your daughter wants to be a nomad. When other girls crave for security, family and kids I crave for my independence, my existence and the purpose of my life.”

“Sorry to disappoint both of you and to disobey you. ”

She left while her parents watched her going. They didn’t stopped her as they knew now she is unstoppable.

 

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Dating is cooler than a Relationship….Do you think so?? 1036

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

  1. A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

  1. It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

  1. You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

  1. You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

  1. You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

  1. You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

What Nirbhaya wants to appeal today for Praduman!! 4543

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.

Do it for me…for Praduman..for….for….

Do it so that there will be no more Nirbhayas and Pradumans…EVER!