Chai Shai n Bit of Love ! 674

Coffee is nice, but tea? It has its own aroma and the charm of sitting in a quilt for long chats on cold winter nights. Oh! what a lovely and cozy kinda feel. But I am not talking about the familiar traditional chai that, we sit in homes and have.

This was tea of chai cafe. Something out of the box. Here, the humble chai was giving a tough competition to CCD and other hip cafes.

The owner boasted of the lovely variety of chai. The cozy sitting had a homely feel yet the decor was contemporary. I went for the first time and fell in love with the place and of course the chai.

My style chai. Less of sugar, no milk with a lovely aroma of tea leaves.

“You liked the tea, maám”?

I looked up from the book and saw a pair of deep brown eyes, just like my tea, gazing at me with a twinkle in eyes.

“Yes, of course. Thank you.”

I came back satisfied with the taste n decor and included this place into my favorites. I thought of visiting it again just to enjoy the ‘me’ time.

The next visit was pretty soon.  I decided to keep my early morning meeting over there. It was quite early in the morning and no other customer was there. I went inside and was pleasantly welcome by the same deep brown eyes.

“Very Good Morning  Dear.”

Dear?? Never mind.

I smiled and exchanged pleasantries. I opened my laptop and started working. Just a few minutes passed and I was served with masala chai.

I looked up with a puzzled look. “I didn’t order it.”

“Work should be accompanied with chai shai .”

He smiled and said” Don’t worry its on the house. ”

“Would you mind, if I join? I lIke my chai shai with a bit of talk”.

He said with crinkles around eyes, due to his broad smile. The on the house chai has to be compensated.

“Ya, sure”.

“May I know your name ?” He asked

“Ï am Radhika.”

” I am Abeer. Abeer Roy. The Owner of this place.”

” Lovely place you have.” I complimented.

The door opened and my client came.The conversation was cut off. He took our order and asked the boy to serve.

The meeting went nice but I could not enjoy my style chai. So after a fortnight, I visited the place again.

Ï didn’t see Abeer. I ordered my chai and sat with a book. It had been a hectic week now I just wanted to relax a bit.

” Hi Radhika. I didn’t see you.” The door flung open with a brimming voice. I somehow had a big smile on my face. Maybe he had an infectious smile.

He further continued. “Ï love your timing. You usually come in an early morning when there is no hustle bustle. It makes evident that you enjoy my chai.”

“I enjoy my ME time!” I wanted to say but somehow just managed to smile.I could not break his heart.

He again bought masala chai on the house and I enjoyed it over my small talks and his jovial laugh.

A week passed and I felt like going to the cafe to have chai with Abeer. I Started enjoying the careless talks with him and of course his twinkling eyes. There was something about him which was very warm,  aromatic and relaxing just like his varied variety of chai which he lovingly served. Every time I went I was served a variety ‘on the house’ for approval.

His passion for chai was equivalent to the passion some poet has for his poetries, almost like loving something intensely.

“How you learned to make tea?” I asked him, on one of our on the house chai session.;)

He looked with a  deep gaze and with a sip, he said, ” My wife loved my chai. After she passed away, I spent my time trying new variants. Then opened this place to send my love to her up in the heaven with all the aromas of these teas. And of course to have a company of someone beautiful like you to enjoy it too. ”

“She was my Partner of Chai Shai and bit of LOVE.”

He sighed and laughed a hearty laughter, but all  I could hear was the pain of losing his chai partner of 40 years!!

I smiled and waved goodbye, with a promise to drop in soon for a story of chai shai and a bit of love!!

And deep down I realized that missing someone is your heart’s way of reminding you that you love them…a lots!! Isn’t it?

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“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1359

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.

Marriage – the funniest ironical institution in India 225

Many people would not be able to figure out the mistake in the following figure. Well, there is no grammatical mistake, there is no printing error or any other fault in it. If you still haven’t figured it out, I have an answer for you, I would like you to face the ironical reality of the modern world or the 21st century where the thoughts and ideologies of Paleolithic age still prevails.

Women have always been considered as a pillar of the society, we have given her various names, we worship her, pamper her and consider her to be the live giver; there is nothing wrong in it. However, it blows my mind to see such kind of ideas still prevail in the society. I personally feel that a woman gets a chance to change her life, the first time she is born, the second time her life changes when she gets married and the third time she changes her life when she gives birth to a new life. But, amidst all this ebb and flow of life cycle, why is there a question that she needs to answer every time. Why is there a need to prove that she can equally love her parent and in-laws? Well, if you feel that I am proclaiming something different, then you must have a look at the picture here.

I find arrange marriages to be the funniest institution in India. Irrespective of the fact that I am a party to it, I still believe that it has some funny traditions and beliefs flowing in it. I would like to highlight a few-

  • The first thing that we say in India is, “Shaadi hamesha barabari ke khaandaan mein honi chahiye (One should get married in a family who is equal in status with the other),” Well, if that is true, why this equivalence is only restricted to money, why no one questions on thoughts, beliefs, ideas, vision etc. Yes, money is important to run a family, but imagine a situation where you have a big house, a big car etc. but both husband and wife are never on the same page. Is that the mantra for a happy married life? At least I don’t feel so.
  • Another popular phrase which we commonly here during the marriage is that “Shaadi to parivaaro ka mail hai ( Marriage is not between two people, it is the bonding of two families,” if that is so, why a girl has to put her in-laws first and ignore her parents. If that’s not the truth, I would again request you to run through the picture above. Why can’t both the families co-exist. Although, things are changing, the ground reality is different.
  • One of the common things I have heard is, “ Ladki ko sasural ke hisab se adjust karna chahiye (girl must learn to compromise and live as per her in-laws and husband),” there is nothing wrong in it and I too believe in it, but what if we tweaked this scenario, like both the parties can make slight adjustments so that everyone is happy and the guy or the husband doesn’t have to take sides.

What I have written is not new or neither revolutionary, I have actually started to find our society to be hilarious. We are never in a phase to create an equal world, rather we always pester on the fact that one has to be above, I think this hierarchical ideology is still haunting us since the time of Britishers. I don’t know how much change will come in the times to come, but, even if one person transforms after reading this, I will feel content.