Common Social Turn-offs to Avoid 71

Do you often find people ignoring you? There can be many ways in which you send signals which can turn-off people and restrain them from socializing with you. We are going to list some common social turn-offs that most of us make online or when we meet new people in real life, make a note of these social turn-offs with a goal of avoiding them from now on-

  1. Sharing Photos Too Often on Facebook

We find reasons to post pictures on Facebook, thinking that the more we share the more people will get attracted towards us. But the fact is sharing too many photos of self can harm your relationships. It’s been observed that people apart from your close friends and relatives cannot relate to those who constantly share their photos, so be cautious before sharing and think how others will perceive it.

  1. Having Too Many or Too Few Friends on Facebook

A study conducted in 2008, researchers surveyed college students. They were given around 100 fictional profiles, some with friends above 300 and some less than 300. It was found that students showed likeability towards profiles which had friends around or above 300 and disliked profiles with friends less than 100. The reason our mind automatically perceives individuals with too many friends to be desperate and the ones with less to be fake.

  1. Disclosing Personal Details Early in A Relationship

In starting of any relationship, we try to build confidence, we do this through disclosing personal details. Sharing details about your likes and dislikes or hobbies can make you more amiable. The key factor is to share personal details without giving intimate details, sharing details about family problems in start can make you seem insecure and reduce your likeability.

  1. Questioning Others Without Talking Much About Yourself

People who keep asking questions to know someone, but try to avoid talking about themselves are generally liked less. For any relationship to develop it’s necessary for both participants to share equal details about oneself to create mutual understanding.

  1. Concealing Your Emotions

Instead of bottling up your true feelings, expressing them is a good way of getting close to people and make them like you. People don’t get close to those who don’t show their true emotions. Sharing emotions facilitates interpersonal relation and closeness.

  1. Don’t Show-off

To impress others personally or professionally, avoid boasting about yourself. For example, in a job interview, if asked about your weaknesses it’s good to state them instead of bragging about your confidence or organizational skills.

 

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.