Communication is a learnable art! 11

Communication is a very powerful tool when you are a social being. The way you express your thoughts, the way you express your feelings, the way you give the message to the person sitting in front of you is very important.

Now, someone might think ‘how hard is it to communicate, after all you just have to go and talk ‘ No! wait, you don’t just have to go and talk. There is much more to communicating than just “talking”. Well, as a beginner who is in love with psychology I read an article recently which said that the little things you do, even the way your body is framed effects the conversation. It doesn’t mean you have to be conscious all the time while talking to someone but if you want someone to like you, or you are trying hard to get your message across the table then you can always use some tactics that can catalyze your process.

Here are a few things that can help you with that.

Your words

This is from my personal experience. I have always seen that the way people use their words sends in the message pretty strongly.
For example: ” I cannot meet you” or “I cannot meet you today but I will try for the next weekend” both of the sentences have the same intention but are received differently. One is negative and one is positive. The point being, that the way you use your words does make a lot of difference.

Your eyes

Ahh them eyes. Now, I am sure you must know this that eyes do most of the talking. If you are talking to someone about something very important or very personal I am sure you wouldn’t like their eyes wandering off every now and then. Wandering eyes whilst a conversation is a sign of boredom or uninterested mind. As a humble gesture, whenever someone speaks to you no matter how unimportant the topic might be to you, it’s always always polite to maintain a steady eye-contact, you never know how important the topic of discussion might be to the other person.

Your hands

Closed hands, or stiff hands, shows lack of confidence. I am a person who is very conscious while speaking in public or even in a discussion with my friends that’s why I move my hands a lot. A lot lot! That gives me a confidence and people take my point more seriously. Against that if you have closed or folded hands while you are talking to someone, can send in a message that you are not into the conversation.

Your body posture

If you are giving a speech or talking in general, a relaxed body sends in a sign that you know what you are talking about and you are confident enough. A stiff body shows lack of confidence.

Try talking than texting

Communication is not just verbal it can be textual also. In this modern world where everyone is just a text away, let me tell you that texts are very misinterpreted that’s why its always better to speak it out.

Approach people with a smile

I was talking to someone while writing this article and he told me that he always approaches people with a smile. There is a funny thing about a smile, it melts the heart. Not the creepy smile, but the ‘you are having a good day’ smile.

Again, what I have seen in my short lived life is when someone approaches me with a smile, I automatically turn soft towards them. So maybe, smiling does have a psychological effect on our brains and hearts too.

These are obviously the very basic but will sure make your conversational skills better. 🙂

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Dating is cooler than a Relationship….Do you think so?? 1062

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

  1. A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

  1. It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

  1. You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

  1. You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

  1. You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

  1. You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

What Nirbhaya wants to appeal today for Praduman!! 4576

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.

Do it for me…for Praduman..for….for….

Do it so that there will be no more Nirbhayas and Pradumans…EVER!