Consequences of Parental Academic Pressure on Children 50

All parents find pride in the academic success of their children, getting higher grades and staying ahead of everyone in class are a few expectations many parents have from their kids, many children achieve success in their career with this push. However, there are many who can’t take this pressure and go through the incredible amount of physical and emotional stress. Please take a note of these signs before it’s too late for your child.

  1. Bouts of Sickness

Children don’t know what stress is so they start complaining about a frequent headache or stomachache, especially when it’s time for results or in extreme cases every morning before going to school, this is a common sign in younger children.

  1. Sleep Deprivation

When parents pressurize their kids to achieve higher grades, they are directly giving them stress, which makes them restless and hampers their sleeping pattern.

  1. Eating Disorder

Being adults we very well know stress directly affects eating habits, it has the same effect on children too, some kids will lose appetite, while some start over eating.

  1. Burnout

Physical disorders mentioned above like disturbed sleeping and eating habits, directly makes the child feel exhausted and fatigued all day long, which causes less ability to concentrate in class.

  1. Loss of interest in Hobbies

It’s been observed that children who are pressurized by parents to get higher grades give up their hobbies, for that matter any kind of creative activity. Thinking that a child who studies all the time is the best one. They may think prioritizing studies over extracurricular activities is good, but in long run they become depressed.

  1. Social Isolation

One of the major consequences of academic pressure is withdrawal from family and friends, children start fearing to come in front of relatives, as they think they will be compared with their cousins. Same happens with friends due to less confidence such kids are not able to make friends and turn out to be an introvert.

  1. Low Self- Worth

Children who are pressurized, constantly seek approval from parents for everything they do, the child starts thinking that being ‘good’ means following the instructions given by his parents. Thus, this process of seeking reassurance undermines child’s confidence and sense of making decisions.

  1. Negative Attitude

With time as the child grows, he starts developing negative personality traits, like frequent mood swings, aggression towards parents and as stated above denial to interact with peers. It’s often seen parental pressure turns teenagers rebellious.

  1. Suicidal thoughts

Irrespective of the child’s skills and interest, parental pressure, and higher expectations to excel in the field of their choice makes the child creates undue stress and anxiety leading to psychological issues. Thus, forcing the child to end his life.

  1. Addiction

The inability to deal with parental pressure results in undesirable activities like premature drinking, illicit drug, and tobacco use. Thus, causing more stress and anxiety. This even makes the child lose interest in activities he liked participating in, resulting in overall personality.

 

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.