Depression…it’s not what you think. 143

At least once in the lifetime, we all go through something which we believe we can’t deal with. We feel like giving up on everything even life. This spell always begins with the anger then it knocks the door of despondency and without realizing, finally we slip into the hands of depression.

Depression isn’t the person screaming out for help. It’s the silent person dealing with battles they’re still trying to understand themselves.

Depression is the phase where we turn into “a living dead”. We fail to understand our own senses, our own emotions and feel dejected. We do breathe but do not live. Even the God seems to plot against us during that phase. We start attracting negative energy and gradually we feel like giving up on life.

It’s upon us not to hit our psychological mode.

Let’s try to fight with something that is standing between us and life. We can make depression a strength to stand again, a hope even in moments that seem hopeless.

It’s easy said than done, but still, we must never stop trying. Instead of choosing the harder path, let’s follow some simple and easy steps to fight with pessimism.

Meditate:

I’ve time and again heard people saying “Start meditating and things will be fine” but sporadically they follow this practice. We keep ourselves so busy that we feel we have no time to meditate. But honestly, we must contemplate. Meditation unwinds our mind, body and soul. It helps us understand the situation palpably. With meditation, we can have control over our emotions. We attract positive energy and make our mind pragmatic and healthy. Meditation will give us an unerring sense of direction.

Music:

Believe it or not, sometimes music sways our mood. Whenever we look ourselves with sombre expressions we must not listen to sad numbers that make our heart heavy instead we must go for the music that electrifies our mood. Music that compels us to tap our feet. We might have to push our mind for such notes but after few peppy numbers we will get into that mood and feel lighter. Music is a stress buster.

Eat what you love:

It’s chucklesome but we must try this once. Next time, when we start feeling sad we must stop ourselves from entering into the next level of melancholy.  We can treat our taste buds with our favorite dish and give our mood a kick.

Meet happy faces:

This is the hard-hitting and the most effective way of fighting with the devil inside us. We surely will have to give a very tough time to ourselves convincing for the same. In the phase when we shun everyone, if someone asks us to” meet and greet” people, it’s exasperating but let’s just do it. Meet sunny faces who will take us away from our problems and make our face glow.

Stop punishing ourselves:

“Locking oneself up in the room” is the harshest punishment we can give our mind body and soul. We don’t need to take the blame for everything. It’s okay to be alone for a while but “a house arrest” is not justified. Breathe in the fresh air. Be free.

Plan a trip:

Go to a place where we have never been before. The change in surroundings will soothe our nerves. Make memories all over the world.

Cry and let go:

It’s alright to shed tears. We must not keep our tears inside and make our heart heavy. Cry and let go of the past. Someone has rightly said, “if you cannot laugh at the same joke again and again then why to cry for the same reason again and again”. Cry, breathe and let go. Life will anyway not stop playing with you.

Self-Love:

Last but not the least “we must learn to love ourselves”. No one on this earth has right to make us feel worthless and no one can hurt us without our permission. We are in charge of our own happiness. God has given us life not to waste on grieving forever. Our life has a purpose. Remember that.

Happiness and sadness are the two sides of the same coin called “life”. We will not be able to cherish our happiness if we will continue loving our sadness. God has given one life. Cherish it, live it, value it. Remember, some people aren’t as lucky as we are.

Make the depression a strength in you because there’s nothing harder than overcoming demons within yourself.

 

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.