Depression…it’s not what you think. 218

At least once in the lifetime, we all go through something which we believe we can’t deal with. We feel like giving up on everything even life. This spell always begins with the anger then it knocks the door of despondency and without realizing, finally we slip into the hands of depression.

Depression isn’t the person screaming out for help. It’s the silent person dealing with battles they’re still trying to understand themselves.

Depression is the phase where we turn into “a living dead”. We fail to understand our own senses, our own emotions and feel dejected. We do breathe but do not live. Even the God seems to plot against us during that phase. We start attracting negative energy and gradually we feel like giving up on life.

It’s upon us not to hit our psychological mode.

Let’s try to fight with something that is standing between us and life. We can make depression a strength to stand again, a hope even in moments that seem hopeless.

It’s easy said than done, but still, we must never stop trying. Instead of choosing the harder path, let’s follow some simple and easy steps to fight with pessimism.

Meditate:

I’ve time and again heard people saying “Start meditating and things will be fine” but sporadically they follow this practice. We keep ourselves so busy that we feel we have no time to meditate. But honestly, we must contemplate. Meditation unwinds our mind, body and soul. It helps us understand the situation palpably. With meditation, we can have control over our emotions. We attract positive energy and make our mind pragmatic and healthy. Meditation will give us an unerring sense of direction.

Music:

Believe it or not, sometimes music sways our mood. Whenever we look ourselves with sombre expressions we must not listen to sad numbers that make our heart heavy instead we must go for the music that electrifies our mood. Music that compels us to tap our feet. We might have to push our mind for such notes but after few peppy numbers we will get into that mood and feel lighter. Music is a stress buster.

Eat what you love:

It’s chucklesome but we must try this once. Next time, when we start feeling sad we must stop ourselves from entering into the next level of melancholy.  We can treat our taste buds with our favorite dish and give our mood a kick.

Meet happy faces:

This is the hard-hitting and the most effective way of fighting with the devil inside us. We surely will have to give a very tough time to ourselves convincing for the same. In the phase when we shun everyone, if someone asks us to” meet and greet” people, it’s exasperating but let’s just do it. Meet sunny faces who will take us away from our problems and make our face glow.

Stop punishing ourselves:

“Locking oneself up in the room” is the harshest punishment we can give our mind body and soul. We don’t need to take the blame for everything. It’s okay to be alone for a while but “a house arrest” is not justified. Breathe in the fresh air. Be free.

Plan a trip:

Go to a place where we have never been before. The change in surroundings will soothe our nerves. Make memories all over the world.

Cry and let go:

It’s alright to shed tears. We must not keep our tears inside and make our heart heavy. Cry and let go of the past. Someone has rightly said, “if you cannot laugh at the same joke again and again then why to cry for the same reason again and again”. Cry, breathe and let go. Life will anyway not stop playing with you.

Self-Love:

Last but not the least “we must learn to love ourselves”. No one on this earth has right to make us feel worthless and no one can hurt us without our permission. We are in charge of our own happiness. God has given us life not to waste on grieving forever. Our life has a purpose. Remember that.

Happiness and sadness are the two sides of the same coin called “life”. We will not be able to cherish our happiness if we will continue loving our sadness. God has given one life. Cherish it, live it, value it. Remember, some people aren’t as lucky as we are.

Make the depression a strength in you because there’s nothing harder than overcoming demons within yourself.

 

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.