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Do I, Just a Homemaker Matter?

A couple of days back I happen to find my old school group of girlfriends. Like all others, we even got together with a Whatsapp group and chatted happily about the old memories as well as what each of us has become today. A lot many were visibly surprised that am not working in some big company and am a homemaker today(being a freelance writer does not count in the real world).

Because I was one of those who always scored fairly well in academics, my parents were insistent that I study and be along with the studious children, and I came out of the home to a big city for better education. With all that probably I sent a vibe to all as “hey! I am going to be big in life”. However, I never said that.

Ladies in the group began discussing the similar question “So, what are you doing now?” Each one started telling their stories. I could not but ignore the word every time “just” as a prefix for being a homemaker, like they say “ Oh, am just a homemaker” or “ are you just a homemaker?” That one single word carried so much emotion that most fail to notice.

I was one among those, who always thought the purpose of education is for you to get placed in some big company and earn huge bucks. But is that so, really? Education gives you or teaches you a lot many other things which I realized over the years.

Knowledgeable

Education teaches a person(both men and women) to be up to date in the current affairs and all the things happening around them. This helps for the women to be alert to her surroundings. It teaches her to be independent and recognize what she is doing.

Education gives freedom

To elaborate the above point, when you learn about new things it gives you a sense of freedom. Education gives a woman the courage to fight for her rights and live life in her ways.

Income

Education makes a woman learn a trade. She may not work in a huge company, but being educated makes women yearn to learn an art. Which can help her in many ways when she needs.

Better equipped in managing children and family

When a woman is educated, she has better knowledge to guide her children, family members etc. She will be the rock of every member of the house because they know who can give a right suggestion to their problems.

Less likely to be domestically abused

Not that all the women who are abused are not educated. However, education makes women less likely to be domestically abused. Because she can easily identify the difference between abuse and need for duty.

I request everyone to change their mindset who think being a homemaker is a waste of education or even valuable time. Do not underestimate anyone because you never know what situation made them chose the family upon everything else. She might be perfectly happy with her choice and doing a great job of it. She even might be more capable than you, given the chance. Isn’t that’s the ultimate goal of everyone – To be happy in life? Respect everyone choices.

On the other hand, dear ladies! Being busy in a family life might make you neglect that one thing that you were good at. You were educated for a purpose and do not ever brush off your skills. Because you never know when what comes in handy. Always stay well informed, take an active part in everything and enjoy life as best as you know!!

I am a homemaker like you others, but I have the confidence that I will survive in any situation. I have the courage to fight for my rights and make a living of my own. I know with all the faults, I am a good parent ( I hope my daughter agrees with me. Sigh!) So let’s remove the “just” and make it the “best”.

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7 comments

  1. Shalini Prasad

    You are so right in saying that we are not “just” homemakers but the “best” homemakers. We are homemakers by choice. We chose our family to job. We know as you rightly said that we are educated for a purpose. That purpose is not solely to earn money and fame. If you are contented in what you chose and have no regrets for your decision, then yes we make the “best” homemakers. I would never shy away to say, “I am a homemaker”

    • Saroja Vasanth

      Thank you Shalini! Yes! I will never shy away too!!

      • Hari Babu

        but do you think in reality now a days does educated woman would like to be a home maker….unless she is in well settled family…..if that family is well settled then I can’t call that woman as home maker partially….I agree with you theoretically but I don’t in reality…

        • Saroja Vasanth

          You have a point sir! No, every woman wants to follow her dreams but circumstances makes her chose family and stay home in many cases. I feel it is insensitive of people to judge her. Not rich enough, so women being educated should contribute to the family income? That is definitely true when the entire family works towards contributing and helping her. Who does not want to live a career?? What I meant in the article is do not judge because you never know her situations.

          • Hari Babu

            i agree with you on “What I meant in the article is do not judge because you never know her situations.” There are many educated but they just dont want to work and no serious commitments about family as well. Its fine if they have commitment about family things and not workings but what if just they dont want to work or no serious about family being educated. I see lot of issues in urban living than rural.

            coming to education, i agree if woman is educated she can light up entire family. But i have seen in reality who is not educated well or did not involve in any other family matters…due to situations…all of sudden….supports like anything….cant imagine…i feel its all about their attitude…fire in commitment towards family goals / challenges. One can bring up or bring down any thing in family.

          • Saroja Vasanth

            I guess that is simply a case of irresposibility. Educated, rich, dont want to commit to any family responsibilities, just want to enjoy on someone earnings without any sentiments or trying to contribute towards family or being independent, in any ways! Is that kind of woman you mean? I agree, there are such people too in the name of homemakers. We have such people in the name of any proffession. Best example is our politicians. 🙂 However, before judging and hurting a honest woman who might be working more than her share do not qualify to be a waste if she is not working in a huge corporate job. Thank you for sharing your valuable thoughts here in comments Sir. I truly appreciate it!!

          • Hari Babu

            Thank you Saroja. I love your article. I like gals speaking up like this.
            Keep it up. Lets see more about which can make society to think just like recently national meeting happend in AP about women parliment…like csr activities…..human relationships..modern govt good governance etc there should not be place for second thought….I like those…rather than just for reading. I am not SIR ..just Hari…available on 9901532596. Nice meeting you.

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