Do I, Just a Homemaker Matter? 310

A couple of days back I happen to find my old school group of girlfriends. Like all others, we even got together with a Whatsapp group and chatted happily about the old memories as well as what each of us has become today. A lot many were visibly surprised that am not working in some big company and am a homemaker today(being a freelance writer does not count in the real world).

Because I was one of those who always scored fairly well in academics, my parents were insistent that I study and be along with the studious children, and I came out of the home to a big city for better education. With all that probably I sent a vibe to all as “hey! I am going to be big in life”. However, I never said that.

Ladies in the group began discussing the similar question “So, what are you doing now?” Each one started telling their stories. I could not but ignore the word every time “just” as a prefix for being a homemaker, like they say “ Oh, am just a homemaker” or “ are you just a homemaker?” That one single word carried so much emotion that most fail to notice.

I was one among those, who always thought the purpose of education is for you to get placed in some big company and earn huge bucks. But is that so, really? Education gives you or teaches you a lot many other things which I realized over the years.

Knowledgeable

Education teaches a person(both men and women) to be up to date in the current affairs and all the things happening around them. This helps for the women to be alert to her surroundings. It teaches her to be independent and recognize what she is doing.

Education gives freedom

To elaborate the above point, when you learn about new things it gives you a sense of freedom. Education gives a woman the courage to fight for her rights and live life in her ways.

Income

Education makes a woman learn a trade. She may not work in a huge company, but being educated makes women yearn to learn an art. Which can help her in many ways when she needs.

Better equipped in managing children and family

When a woman is educated, she has better knowledge to guide her children, family members etc. She will be the rock of every member of the house because they know who can give a right suggestion to their problems.

Less likely to be domestically abused

Not that all the women who are abused are not educated. However, education makes women less likely to be domestically abused. Because she can easily identify the difference between abuse and need for duty.

I request everyone to change their mindset who think being a homemaker is a waste of education or even valuable time. Do not underestimate anyone because you never know what situation made them chose the family upon everything else. She might be perfectly happy with her choice and doing a great job of it. She even might be more capable than you, given the chance. Isn’t that’s the ultimate goal of everyone – To be happy in life? Respect everyone choices.

On the other hand, dear ladies! Being busy in a family life might make you neglect that one thing that you were good at. You were educated for a purpose and do not ever brush off your skills. Because you never know when what comes in handy. Always stay well informed, take an active part in everything and enjoy life as best as you know!!

I am a homemaker like you others, but I have the confidence that I will survive in any situation. I have the courage to fight for my rights and make a living of my own. I know with all the faults, I am a good parent ( I hope my daughter agrees with me. Sigh!) So let’s remove the “just” and make it the “best”.

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.