Do I, Just a Homemaker Matter? 12

A couple of days back I happen to find my old school group of girlfriends. Like all others, we even got together with a Whatsapp group and chatted happily about the old memories as well as what each of us has become today. A lot many were visibly surprised that am not working in some big company and am a homemaker today(being a freelance writer does not count in the real world).

Because I was one of those who always scored fairly well in academics, my parents were insistent that I study and be along with the studious children, and I came out of the home to a big city for better education. With all that probably I sent a vibe to all as “hey! I am going to be big in life”. However, I never said that.

Ladies in the group began discussing the similar question “So, what are you doing now?” Each one started telling their stories. I could not but ignore the word every time “just” as a prefix for being a homemaker, like they say “ Oh, am just a homemaker” or “ are you just a homemaker?” That one single word carried so much emotion that most fail to notice.

I was one among those, who always thought the purpose of education is for you to get placed in some big company and earn huge bucks. But is that so, really? Education gives you or teaches you a lot many other things which I realized over the years.


Education teaches a person(both men and women) to be up to date in the current affairs and all the things happening around them. This helps for the women to be alert to her surroundings. It teaches her to be independent and recognize what she is doing.

Education gives freedom

To elaborate the above point, when you learn about new things it gives you a sense of freedom. Education gives a woman the courage to fight for her rights and live life in her ways.


Education makes a woman learn a trade. She may not work in a huge company, but being educated makes women yearn to learn an art. Which can help her in many ways when she needs.

Better equipped in managing children and family

When a woman is educated, she has better knowledge to guide her children, family members etc. She will be the rock of every member of the house because they know who can give a right suggestion to their problems.

Less likely to be domestically abused

Not that all the women who are abused are not educated. However, education makes women less likely to be domestically abused. Because she can easily identify the difference between abuse and need for duty.

I request everyone to change their mindset who think being a homemaker is a waste of education or even valuable time. Do not underestimate anyone because you never know what situation made them chose the family upon everything else. She might be perfectly happy with her choice and doing a great job of it. She even might be more capable than you, given the chance. Isn’t that’s the ultimate goal of everyone – To be happy in life? Respect everyone choices.

On the other hand, dear ladies! Being busy in a family life might make you neglect that one thing that you were good at. You were educated for a purpose and do not ever brush off your skills. Because you never know when what comes in handy. Always stay well informed, take an active part in everything and enjoy life as best as you know!!

I am a homemaker like you others, but I have the confidence that I will survive in any situation. I have the courage to fight for my rights and make a living of my own. I know with all the faults, I am a good parent ( I hope my daughter agrees with me. Sigh!) So let’s remove the “just” and make it the “best”.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926


Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is… word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.




Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.