Finding Mr. Right on Matrimonial sites. 8

I was 27(happily single), go with the flow kinda girl, employed and had a very loyal & super crazy bunch of friends, life was all sorted… but just for me!

Elders in the family & other well-wishers had a very different perception of me, for them I was 27(way above the marriageable age in India), with no stability in life, not settled (being employed is not being settled, you see!).. my life was certainly not sorted for them. After not being able to fix up a match for me through the conventional ways everyone decided to go for the unconventional way- The Matrimonial Sites. Here began my journey of meeting the prospective grooms of all kinds.;)

Would love to share a few types with you all-

Prospective Groom 1- Shy Type

They take forever to move beyond hello! how are you? and when they manage to move beyond that, a five-minute conversation can be the maximum talk time you are granted.

Prospective Groom 2- Inquisitive Type

They have to know everything from your DOB to the name of your distant relative’s another distant relative. Phew!!

Prospective Groom 3- Nerd Type

They have the supreme power to bore you to death by explaining the complex algorithms and database restructuring that keeps them involved. Better they get married to their profession!

Prospective Groom 4- Brainless Beauty Type

You drool over this handsome man’s snaps and build a fairytale dreamland and then he opens his mouth, talks dumb and your dream world comes crashing down. If only!

Prospective Groom 5- Over Friendly Type

They are the ones who zoom into your world and try to know it all in a matter of few seconds. Such kinds can plan the entire wedding in a few minutes of chat. Beware!

Prospective Groom 6- Out Of Reach Type

Well! Well! You like every bit of his personality, looks and profession, the ideal man he is. He seems to fine tune all the strings of your heart but then this man is either already in talks with someone or his expectations are too high. Sigh!

Prospective Groom 7-  My type 😉

But then I have been extremely lucky to have found my prince charming on one such matrimonial site. After meeting a few absolutely not my kind prospective grooms finally my luck shined and I found my man.

So, all you girls in search of their groom be prepared to have a lovely time finding your right match on these sites and the ones already married, remember your time and have a good laugh! and feel free to add more types to the list.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.