It was a rainy evening just a few days back. I and my daughter decided to go to a chats corner to eat some tasty and spicy chats. While we were there, a group of college-aged girls came in. Suddenly there were loud laughter, noise and an air of fun. I also noticed many heads staring at these chirpy young girls who cared for none. I have this habit of watching people face and it fascinates me. Every face has so many things to tell. Whether we want to share or not, our faces always tell others what kind of mood we are in. You must have seen many times people passing by all alone, yet smiling to themselves? Or someone, scowling? And here in the chat corner too I started to observe, especially the women face.
What I saw was somewhat sad. I saw those girls, happily jumping, squealing, having fun with each other without a care in the world and not bothered about anything else around them. Then I saw a little older that is middle-aged women, walking in a hurry and with visible tension in their faces. I saw a mother, angry at her child for being stubborn, I saw a wife waiting for her husband who was vividly late, I saw a woman who looked like someone who came straight from having a hard day and got loads in her head, busily giving instruction to someone regarding a party preparation for the next day. These women showed such signs of stress that it was hard to miss the changes in a woman from being carefree to a responsible person.
These women were once been like the other carefree girls without any care in the world. What changed that? It’s easy to brush it off as “life happens”. Did marriage change all? is it the husband, is it the in-laws, is it the high-profile career that you are chasing so hard for years, or anything else?
We might give many reasons, however, deep down I believe it always comes down to us as to how we handle our life. I agree, for many, there are those unfortunate people in life who drag us down to make us feel miserable. Still many a times it is we who let carry too many responsibilities simply because we do not learn how to let others help us. We are too egoistic to share or to ask for help.
Many married women lose those friendships that they had for more than a decade of years simply because of the responsibilities she believes that it is her own. Dear woman, share your work, let others also be a part of what you do and cheer up. Life is too short to spend it off without enjoying the little moments. Things that you decided too kiddish are something that needed to be sane and happy.
Hey woman, here are a few things that you should do to keep that young girl in you alive and not to lose out yourself in the world of responsibilities.
Call that friend you were meaning to call for a long time just because you had a fight years back and never got around to patch up. Trust me! There is nothing happier than catching up with a childhood friend.
Sing and dance with your children even if you are not good at it. Well, we are not trying to participate in any concert. But you should, if you are really good at it.
Learn to say “No” to family demands when are tired of carrying on. Your body may be able to do it. But not your mind.
Do not worry about what people are going to think. You have already come too far to build a rapport with people around you and simple things do not matter because everyone is busy with their own lives.
Do not try to save every penny for your children. You are making them study hard is to teach them to be independent and to earn their way. Enjoy the little pleasures you could buy.
Do not try too hard please everyone. People always have something against when they are dissatisfied with themselves.
Make time and spend time with your inner self.
These are some of my ways. But each woman might have her own way of dealings with things in life. Whatever you do, do not lose out that chirpy and bubbly girl you once had been. Keep her alive, give her more importance than to the one which pressure and stress had made you today.