Hey Woman! Stay Girl!! 730

It was a rainy evening just a few days back. I and my daughter decided to go to a chats corner to eat some tasty and spicy chats. While we were there, a group of college-aged girls came in. Suddenly there were loud laughter, noise and an air of fun. I also noticed many heads staring at these chirpy young girls who cared for none. I have this habit of watching people face and it fascinates me. Every face has so many things to tell. Whether we want to share or not, our faces always tell others what kind of mood we are in. You must have seen many times people passing by all alone, yet smiling to themselves? Or someone, scowling? And here in the chat corner too I started to observe, especially the women face.

What I saw was somewhat sad. I saw those girls, happily jumping, squealing, having fun with each other without a care in the world and not bothered about anything else around them. Then I saw a little older that is middle-aged women, walking in a hurry and with visible tension in their faces. I saw a mother, angry at her child for being stubborn, I saw a wife waiting for her husband who was vividly late, I saw a woman who looked like someone who came straight from having a hard day and got loads in her head, busily giving instruction to someone regarding a party preparation for the next day. These women showed such signs of stress that it was hard to miss the changes in a woman from being carefree to a responsible person.

These women were once been like the other carefree girls without any care in the world. What changed that? It’s easy to brush it off as “life happens”. Did marriage change all? is it the husband, is it the in-laws, is it the high-profile career that you are chasing so hard for years, or anything else?

We might give many reasons, however, deep down I believe it always comes down to us as to how we handle our life. I agree, for many, there are those unfortunate people in life who drag us down to make us feel miserable. Still many a times it is we who let carry too many responsibilities simply because we do not learn how to let others help us. We are too egoistic to share or to ask for help.

Many married women lose those friendships that they had for more than a decade of years simply because of the responsibilities she believes that it is her own. Dear woman, share your work, let others also be a part of what you do and cheer up. Life is too short to spend it off without enjoying the little moments. Things that you decided too kiddish are something that needed to be sane and happy.

Hey woman, here are a few things that you should do to keep that young girl in you alive and not to lose out yourself in the world of responsibilities.

  • Call that friend you were meaning to call for a long time just because you had a fight years back and never got around to patch up. Trust me! There is nothing happier than catching up with a childhood friend.

  • Sing and dance with your children even if you are not good at it. Well, we are not trying to participate in any concert. But you should, if you are really good at it.

  • Learn to say “No” to family demands when are tired of carrying on. Your body may be able to do it. But not your mind.

  • Do not worry about what people are going to think. You have already come too far to build a rapport with people around you and simple things do not matter because everyone is busy with their own lives.

  • Do not try to save every penny for your children. You are making them study hard is to teach them to be independent and to earn their way. Enjoy the little pleasures you could buy.

  • Do not try too hard please everyone. People always have something against when they are dissatisfied with themselves.

  • Make time and spend time with your inner self.

These are some of my ways. But each woman might have her own way of dealings with things in life. Whatever you do, do not lose out that chirpy and bubbly girl you once had been. Keep her alive, give her more importance than to the one which pressure and stress had made you today.

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Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1373

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.

 

Movie Review: SIMRAN 2777

Queen, Tanu Weds Manu, Tanu Weds Manu Returns and now Simran, Kangna is on a rout, she has proven time and again that she is one of the best actresses available today. She has made a mark for herself in the film industry synonymous to that made by Sridevi, that, of doing movies which are female-centric, of movies which revolve around themselves (Judaai, Chaalbaz, Lamhe, Laadla to name a few). The only difference though being, all the movies had an extremely strong supporting cast. Kangna has to be given accolades to run a movie entirely on her very own shoulders, and this is not the first time either, we bow to you Kangna, you deserve the Best Actress Award for this one.

Kangna who plays Praful Patel is a gujju girl staying in Atlanta who likes herself be called as Prafff. Praf has a typical Gujarati accent and all my Gujju friends are going to love the Gujarati dialogues the movie carries, I know Gujarati and so I enjoyed it thoroughly.

Kangna is introduced from a housekeeping scene mopping and wiping floors and tables, there is just so much genuineness in that scene, it’s great to watch her there. When she goes to Vegas, her sleazy lines such as “are you tired, because you were running in my mind” are some great moments that bring about here innocence and wickedness both out at the same time.

In the red dress in Vegas, she looks gorgeous, she dazzles and ravishes like a diva and is super cute when she puts on her very native gujju accent “Halo, I aem Praeffff…” she just steals your attention away throughout the movie. A song in the movie titled “Lagdi Hai Thaai” sung by Guru Randhawa aptly describes what Simran is in the movie.

The best thing about this movie is that it has a good storyline and director Hansal Mehta pulls it off amazingly with Kangna. The first hour of the movie just zips its way through with Kangna showcasing her bubbly self, her expressions at an expensive store, her bargaining at the street shop and then her equivalence of the pink champagne and fries at the bartender, there are too many funny and hilarious moments. It’s the second half that becomes a tad serious but since the movie is almost 2 hrs, it doesn’t feel to be stretched at any point of time.

There are some points where you wonder if it is really possible to learn a bank robbery from YouTube and execute a heist, but those go in the movie stride and you really don’t mind these.

The movie touches important points related to the American Dream that much of our Indian Community has and exposes that it might not be true for everyone, it may turn out to be just a Dream for some. The nagging father of Kangna performs well and Sohum Shah is where I think a popular Bollywood actor would have benefited more, but Sohum looks original, he is simple and he looked like a studios guy from a small town in Gujarat, he does justice to his role.

But it’s Kangna and Kangna and Kangna stealing away the show, she is setting new benchmarks which are extremely difficult to surpass when it comes to ACTING. She is fantabulous and the heart of this movie.

She carries it on her shoulders all alone and she delivers a power-packed punch.

Music is good and hummable.

There is actually no one else to talk about in the movie, the movie has absolutely no supporting cast, but trust me, it wasn’t needed as well. The movie is about Simran, and it talks about Simran, hats off to Kangna, this one’s a Kohinoor in the QUEEN’S CROWN. 🙂

All in all, it’s an extremely light and a different movie with awesome Acting by Kangna. Watch it for Kangna.

Rating: 3.5/5.0

(0.5 points extra only and only for Kangna)