How to make your Man perfect- In your Relationship 6

Whenever I am in a women-only gathering, most of the fellow women have a similar cribbing point, that their soulmate or boyfriends are not…… perfect. They don’t do this; they don’t do that; they are not like this; they are not like that…just endless complaints!! So just thought of sharing few tried and tested do’s to have the loveliest relationship ever:

1. Accept your Man in present

Yes, it is accepting your Man, as he is right now. No matter, what he was earlier, good or bad, how he is now- matters most. There is no place for criticism for his habits. Even if the habits are old and irritating, they will go with time, so just don’t become his unwanted critic all the time and chill. After all, even we are also not perfect! Are we?

2. Find his positives:

Try and focus on what he is doing for you, rather finding what he is not doing. Like he may not be calling whole day, when in office but once home, he would not forget to handle kids at bedtime with his stories; he may not bring you flowers often but definitely makes sure he does breakfast and dinner made by you with you.

3. Express yourself:

Be expressive in telling him that what he means to you. Share your secrets and confessions with him as you would do with your best friend. Though it may sound crazy, but it does work! When your MAN knows, how much you love him and trust him and even fall for him, he will definitely love to stay around you in each situation.

4. Pamper him

Try to pamper him in the way his parents would do. Hug him often, try to pat him on the head, kiss his forehead or take your fingers in his hair. Men, may not express it, but they love to be pampered and loved and believe me, if you do it, he will be emotionally dependent on you forever.

5. Ignore his bad mood swings:

Getting angry to a limit is normal human instinct. You have to be very tricky when he is angry or in not so good mood. Give him space instantly. Don’t try to give a lecture on some expected idealistic behaviour. They will cool down after some time and will definitely come to you to find solutions and then you can help.

6. Be girlish sometimes

Your man loves you to be sexy and girlish some time so be one for him. This really helps to keep your relationship spicy and young. 😉

After all, we all know the weak points of our man always and also know how to make the best use of it…. Don’t we?Hahaha.. wink wink.

Hahaha.. wink wink.

 

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.