I am a woman and I don’t cook. 863

In the changing times, where career and education is no longer the forte of a man, cooking still remains the woman’s pièce de résistance.  A man enters the kitchen only if he “inclines to” or if he is working as a chef.

In the present century, a woman pursues her masters, excels in her career, is financially stable and is self-dependent but she still has to encounter the harsh reality of the ancient times when she reaches the age of marriage.

“Cooking” this small word suddenly becomes predominant when a girl is getting married, Aditi didn’t realize this till she faced this grasping reality.

She is an independent woman, staying away from family, working and unswerving. Finally, when she is looking forward for marriage, she realized that no matter how beautiful, educated, self-dependent, friendly and adjusting a girl is, she will lose her marks if she is not a good cook.

Last week she spurned 3 matches, her parents are angry because they feel she was too immature and quick in taking a decision.

The 1st man she met was a banker by profession, tall and handsome. He was seeking a working wife. This quality of his win over her and she agreed to meet him. This was for the first time ever she was facing this “awkward moment” where she didn’t know how to take the conversation forward but she was friendly enough to handle it. While having a conversation with him, she candidly told him that cooking doesn’t interest her and without even letting her complete the statement he said “You can always learn, I don’t prefer to keep a cook for my kitchen, I can’t adjust on this one. My mother is a teacher, she also works like you do and she is a great cook as well. So you can always learn. Every girl cook after marriage, I am sure you will learn cooking soon”. He grinned. She smiled, nodded and messaged her dad “rejected”

The 2nd man was a businessman who had no issues with a working girl as long as she cooks breakfast and lunch before she leaves and prepares dinner after she comes back. She politely asked him “Do you know how to cook?” He laughed “Why should I know? That’s not my job” She discounted saying “That’s not my job either”. There was an awkward silence in the room after her statement, however, we all can guess the result of their meeting.

The 3rd man was an interesting character. He was working in an MNC as a Software Engineer and was staying away from family just like her. Here the conversation was going pretty well even the parents seem to be happy with this match. This time her mother warned her not to talk about cooking at all.

But she knew if she will not take a stand for herself she might end up landing with a wrong decision. So she asked him “Who cooks food for you?”

“Of course maid. I don’t know how to cook.” He responded with a smile.

“Same here,” she forthright told him.

“Why??” he asked her with a perturbed look.

“Because cooking never allured me and moreover with job, it’s difficult to manage, I get no time for cooking”

“Then what about after marriage?” He questioned.

“You have a maid right?” She quizzed.

“No yaar, I cannot eat maid-cooked food all my life”

“Okay then lets both of us learn cooking. One day you cook and one day I’ll cook”, ofshe twinkled and he disappeared.

And that’s the sad truth that every man wants to eat the home cooked meal but no one wants to cook or even help. Even parents of a girl start feeling at one point of time that she might lose good matches because she cannot cook. “No interest in cooking” is seen as if the girl has some disability.

Cooking shouldn’t be the criteria for judging how good a woman will be as a wife.

For a healthy relationship, both the partners should help each other in household work. No work should be labelled as “His work” or “Her work”.  A romantic date after marriage need not be a candle light dinner.  It can be romancing each other while cooking together.  It should not always be a wife’s duty to keep his hubby happy when it comes to food rather it should be both ways.

If all the men on earth will understand this simple truth then every kitchen will see a happy couple, every dinner table will spread joy and every wife will fall in love with her husband even more. What say??

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My Life… My Rules..!! But is Your Life Yours Alone? 695

It’s become quite a common line among most teenagers every time they were questioned or been advised on how they move with things in life. I have come across so many positive lines and articles that says your life is yours alone and no one will step up for it. It is only in your own hands that how you rule it.

These things are true, but what they mean is entirely different from the way it is used among the younger generations today. The way the trend is going, many like to say the famous line as “My life, my rules!” bluntly without thinking the consequences and the situation. Yes, our life is for us to live but we must not forget that our life is linked with many others living around us. People who care for us and who love us.

Every time I hear someone tell me it’s their life and they like to do things as however they want, it makes me feel sad because people just don’t know what life is all about.

Do you still think your life is yours alone? Here are a few reasons that explain why it is not-

1. Your life matters to your family

The moment you were born you become a part of someone’s life. Your parents and people who may love you. As you grow older there are lot many others who walk in your life. Some stay and some move on. But is your life alone? No! Your life is linked to many others who love to see you happy. We need to give something to get what we need.

When people decide to take off their life, they do not realize that they do not actually have the complete rights to do that. Because they fail to understand that it is easy for the person who dies, but it is difficult for the person who lives knowing that the one person who he or she loved most is not there with them anymore. So, I strongly deny that your life is not yours alone.

2. We live in a community

A person who tells you that he or she does not care about what the society thinks is the first person who is usually lying. People say that to convince themselves that they do not care, in truth they actually care. It is a reverse mechanism. When you are faced with rejection or some kind of negative responses to something or by someone, immediately many try to think that they do not care. Every human craves for recognition and to be identified for their potential. Instead of showing ignorance, it’s better to face criticism in a constructive way, After all, it is the same society which is going to give you all the things that you desire to be happy. Your existence is linked with the society you live in.

3. Following rules may help sometime

Agreed that some rules are baseless, but many are useful for us. Some rules are made for our own safety and protection. Most often the younger generation becomes agitated when they are restricted to many things. The first thing what we need to recognize is anything too much is not good. It is not the problem of having rules instead it is the problem of not knowing how to deal with them.

4. It is selfish

When someone says it’s my lifestyle, do not meddle, it sounds too prude and selfish to me. There are some people who try to be an unnecessary part of our lives when we are not interested. Some are even toxic. However, there are different ways to make sure that you keep such people at bay. But the way people go on with a rant of “My life! My rules” seems totally a selfish attitude. Sometimes it is also an escapism of laziness in order to avoid taking responsibilities.

We, humans, are social creatures and we need interactions with other people around us whether we like it or not, to survive. We may choose not to care but there are people who care for us more than we like to acknowledge. Hence, do not ever forget that your life is not yours alone. Sometimes we live by rules made by someone else just to keep the people we love happy even though it may not be something we wanted. Trust me, the result will always keep us happy in the end too. Life is to share and live together and care for one another. Embrace it, Enjoy it and Love it with everyone else in it.

 

Daughter’s Day Special: Enjoy this song to feel what she wants to say to you! 1127

This Daughter’s Day, Gallinukkad appeals to each parent of a daughter that now is time to change your mindset so that your daughters are raised rightly. Don’t suppress your daughter’s freedom, let her raise voice against any wrong happening to her physically and emotionally, make her career conscious and financially independent, hear and respect her opinions; don’t set boundaries for her, let her decide for herself. If you stand for her today, she will stand for herself and her daughter tomorrow.

And to the parents of a son, It’s time to teach your boys that even she is a complete individual, not just the other half.

Enjoy this beautiful song to feel what she wants to say to you!

Happy Daughter’s Day to all!