When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Ah, well! It is indeed an interesting topic coz the body language communicates more than the words we speak; you don't necessarily have to be a detective to read what is going on in someone's head. Even the little knowledge to read the body language of others can provide an incredible amount of information about what they are thinking, while you hold a conversation with them. Each act or gesture is like a signal that tells you what's going on in the other person's mind.
So next time when you are in a meeting or on a date or just having a casual conversation with somebody, look for these clues:
- Crossed arms and legs
While conversing with someone if you notice them crossing their arms and legs take a note that they are not open to what you are saying, it suggests they are physically barricading themselves. Psychologically this posture suggests that a person is physically, mentally and emotionally blocking themselves from what is being said.
It’s a common saying "Real smiles crinkle the eyes", often people smile to hide what they are actually thinking and feeling, next time when you see someone smiling continuously while a conversation check for the corners of their eyes if they don't crinkle that means they are trying to hide something behind their fake smile.
If you notice someone copying your posture don't take it negatively, it’s actually a good signal. People tend to copy body language unknowingly when they feel a bond with the person they are communicating with. This tip is useful when you are trying to crack a business deal; it shows you what the other person is thinking.
The way a person walks and sits speaks a lot about their level of confidence when someone sits and stands straight with their shoulders high shows they are in power and confident whereas if someone is slouching it indicates they are less sure of what they are doing.
- Eye contact
Till date there are many people who still operate under the assumption that if someone is maintaining eye contact with you that means they are not lying to you, this is right to an extent. But since this is a common knowledge people will deliberately try to hold your gaze so that you trust them and they can cover their lies.
- Nodding head
If you are talking to somebody and you see a person giving you extra nods, the approval is doubtful.
I am not saying that you can read a person’s exact thoughts but definitely, you can learn a lot from their body language and this can really help you to judge him/her.