I let him walk over me, for the sake of saving the marriage. 222

The struggles we’re facing today are developing the strength we will need for tomorrow. Those struggles may appear in different forms. In my case, struggles went from mild to severe within very short period of time. First, I was a victim of a cheating spouse a few years ago.

I was a victim of verbal abuse, and I suffered from being abused mentally, financially, and physically. I was lead to believe that I wasn’t good enough and that I deserved what was served to me. I was afraid to move on because I loved him and I told myself I won’t be able to find a man like him, so I did what most spouses do, be a martyr and try to save the marriage. I let him do what he wanted to do, I let him walk over me, for the sake of saving the marriage and hoping that maybe one day the man I fell in love with will come back. Sounds familiar?

How long could you endure the pain of loving someone that doesn’t value you anymore? See, loving someone doesn’t mean you should be with them. Trying to save the broken glass will only cut you and make you bleed. Be brave, throw away that broken glass and be strong to face the challenge that comes next.

How long could you endure the pain of loving someone that doesn’t value you anymore? See, loving someone doesn’t mean you should be with them. Trying to save the broken glass will only cut you and make you bleed. Be brave, throw away that broken glass and be strong to face the challenge that comes next.

You’re too strong to live your life hurting. You are too beautiful to let someone’s ugly ways make you insecure of yourself. Never allow detestable people to hurt you.

You’re too strong to live your life hurting. You are too beautiful to let someone’s ugly ways make you insecure of yourself. Never allow detestable people to hurt you.

After letting go and moving on with my life, I gained my confidence back. I loved and gave value to myself and the result fascinated me. Remember when you were thinking that maybe you won’t find someone like that person you used to love? You’re right with that. You will never find someone like that again because the persons you will attract are those people that will see the greatest value in you.

Moving on and letting go of my past toxic relationship blessed me with a man whom I call my un-married husband. He is my strength when I am weak, my guide when I’m lost, and the light in my darkness, (not trying to be cheesy). Not to mention my walking encyclopedia, no kidding aside.

Our love had given us a wonderful gift. We were overjoyed with the news that I am carrying our baby. We couldn’t ask for more, it all seemed great and I was perfectly happy. Then, I was hit with the severe storm.

Life has played me again. Not long ago, we lost our Angel just a few weeks before the due date. It was the most agonizing feeling I had ever felt in my entire life. Holding your child in your arms for the first, last, and only time unlocks a pain your soul never imagined possible.

Why do I have to say goodbye before I can have a chance to say hello? How I’d love to hear the sound of her cry. Each day I wished it’s only a nightmare and when I wake up, our baby would still be with us. How can you overcome that pain? How can you live again without the one that completes you?

When you lose a child, you lose an entire lifetime of dreams, wishes, and plans, but somehow, we have to let go and move on. Yes, we will never be the same. The hardest part of losing a baby is living every day afterward, but one way or another we have to make that step forward. It’s not easy, but one step at a time, we can and we will get through it.

To all the people that are dealing with a broken heart, remember, you are strong and you are beautiful, so put those broken pieces together and love yourself. The right person will come and will show you how it feels to be truly loved.

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.