I let him walk over me, for the sake of saving the marriage. 150

The struggles we’re facing today are developing the strength we will need for tomorrow. Those struggles may appear in different forms. In my case, struggles went from mild to severe within very short period of time. First, I was a victim of a cheating spouse a few years ago.

I was a victim of verbal abuse, and I suffered from being abused mentally, financially, and physically. I was lead to believe that I wasn’t good enough and that I deserved what was served to me. I was afraid to move on because I loved him and I told myself I won’t be able to find a man like him, so I did what most spouses do, be a martyr and try to save the marriage. I let him do what he wanted to do, I let him walk over me, for the sake of saving the marriage and hoping that maybe one day the man I fell in love with will come back. Sounds familiar?

How long could you endure the pain of loving someone that doesn’t value you anymore? See, loving someone doesn’t mean you should be with them. Trying to save the broken glass will only cut you and make you bleed. Be brave, throw away that broken glass and be strong to face the challenge that comes next.

How long could you endure the pain of loving someone that doesn’t value you anymore? See, loving someone doesn’t mean you should be with them. Trying to save the broken glass will only cut you and make you bleed. Be brave, throw away that broken glass and be strong to face the challenge that comes next.

You’re too strong to live your life hurting. You are too beautiful to let someone’s ugly ways make you insecure of yourself. Never allow detestable people to hurt you.

You’re too strong to live your life hurting. You are too beautiful to let someone’s ugly ways make you insecure of yourself. Never allow detestable people to hurt you.

After letting go and moving on with my life, I gained my confidence back. I loved and gave value to myself and the result fascinated me. Remember when you were thinking that maybe you won’t find someone like that person you used to love? You’re right with that. You will never find someone like that again because the persons you will attract are those people that will see the greatest value in you.

Moving on and letting go of my past toxic relationship blessed me with a man whom I call my un-married husband. He is my strength when I am weak, my guide when I’m lost, and the light in my darkness, (not trying to be cheesy). Not to mention my walking encyclopedia, no kidding aside.

Our love had given us a wonderful gift. We were overjoyed with the news that I am carrying our baby. We couldn’t ask for more, it all seemed great and I was perfectly happy. Then, I was hit with the severe storm.

Life has played me again. Not long ago, we lost our Angel just a few weeks before the due date. It was the most agonizing feeling I had ever felt in my entire life. Holding your child in your arms for the first, last, and only time unlocks a pain your soul never imagined possible.

Why do I have to say goodbye before I can have a chance to say hello? How I’d love to hear the sound of her cry. Each day I wished it’s only a nightmare and when I wake up, our baby would still be with us. How can you overcome that pain? How can you live again without the one that completes you?

When you lose a child, you lose an entire lifetime of dreams, wishes, and plans, but somehow, we have to let go and move on. Yes, we will never be the same. The hardest part of losing a baby is living every day afterward, but one way or another we have to make that step forward. It’s not easy, but one step at a time, we can and we will get through it.

To all the people that are dealing with a broken heart, remember, you are strong and you are beautiful, so put those broken pieces together and love yourself. The right person will come and will show you how it feels to be truly loved.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.