I wonder why women feel pride in being a 'Doing it all' type?
Years back, I came across a certain whats app forwarded message saying how great a woman is, that she can be a photographer, a cook, a gardener and so on, meaning playing different roles all at the same time or was it a home maker or I suppose it was about a mother. Whatever it was, It actually spoke about the multi tasking skills of a woman. How a woman can pull off various works and can handle all in a professional way. When I read the article (it was an exceptional piece of an article with well-defined emotions) it touched me in ways that I could not explain and immediately I sent it across to all my friends and anyone who needed a boost in life.
As time passed, I kept reading such posts, plenty of them in fact. Time then and now, there are so many various articles written and images are drawn that one quick keyword mention, you will find them all in the Google search. However, I realized my feelings have changed. I wonder why we woman have to feel pride in being a multitasker? Is it an evaluation we should undergo to survive and to be happy?Do woman need to do everything? Why can't her work be shared?
I remember, watching a scene in one of the movies, not really sure which one though. A wife spends all her day doing all the household chores as well as some of the outside works such as paying bills etc. She gets totally drained by evening and the husband comes home and just lays down on the sofa. He see's the wife cooking the night's dinner and he knows that she is tired too. So what he does is, goes to her, looks at all the dishes she has prepared for the dinner and compliments her profusely. He tells in various emotions, that how truly lucky he is to have her and she is a super woman who manages everything and she is his rock and the usual Blah...Blah...returns back to the sofa picks up the remote, switches between the channels and relaxes. The wife mood is all cheerful and her confidence is lifted up until she could drop down again being all tired.
Do you see a pattern here? What I am trying to say is a woman of course like compliments for her work, but what she actually needs is a helping hand.
Dear women, as long as you convince yourself that you are a superwoman and you can manage everything, no one will ever recognize that you do need help. Reach out to your families and speak about your limits. Most people are ready to help when they are asked, as some do not realize until then. Be it a husband, in-laws or any one in the house, when you are unable to continue, ask for help. Sometimes, your family needs help from you to understand how they can help you too. Stop doing it all just because you can, just because you are taught to be a superwoman. You don't have to!! Be firm in what you could do and what you cannot, as some do not like to help and are much happier when there is someone else to do all their works.
Why does a woman have to be a superwoman with multitasking skills? Let's not push beyond her limits with false hype and we all can live a life for what we are born for. Let a woman discover her potential and become something on her own, provided she can give time to herself. Like how men do not cross their limits, women need not have to as well and if one does, then it should be out of choice and not out of force. Women are much bolder and educated these days but emotions and love can be really tricky some times.
Next time you see the picture of that woman with many hands by holding a baby in one hand, cleaning brush in another, laptop in one of the other hand, cooking in another and so on, I recommend, you toss it off instead of being proud. Because there is no one telling you a 'Shaabash' on your back and giving you a break for all that you do. What you could do, is ask a family member to take care of the baby while you cook, ask someone else to shop the groceries while you have to attend a meeting. Hire help for cleaning and any other purposes, if you can afford and so on.
Let's help one another by reaching out, asking for help, sharing and dividing work.