Why most of the mothers spoil their own daughter’s life. 1953

The lady, who is supposed to support you the most, the creator of you; your mother is actually the one who snatch away your individuality when in the same situations your brother is termed right and you are wrong and advised to be a ‘Good girl’.

Yes, fellow women, it’s our mother, it’s we as mothers who are responsible for the mess that we have in our lives and our daughters will have in their lives.

1. It was just today at the pool when a 6-year-old boy had an argument with a 5-year-old girl and the girl started shouting at him. Without wanting to know the reason, the girl’s mother told her daughter…’  Don’t shout on bhaiya..Girls don’t shout like this.’

So right from childhood, your mother takes away the right to express your anger and objections just because you are a girl.

2. Your brother can bring his girlfriends home and even allowed to move to his room with them but your boyfriends are not allowed even to the living room, if you do so, your mother will raise one thousand questions. She not only distrusts you but also warns you not to do this ever again.

3. Once you are of marriageable age, you are expected and taught to satisfy your husband’s physical desires and fantasies whereas stats prove that 80% of females don’t even know what it feels to have an orgasm.

Being a female, you should not demand any physical pleasure because you are given such ‘sanskars’ by your mothers that thinking of physical pleasure will label you as shameless and unconscionable but your male counterpart has all the privileges.

4. When you give birth to a female child, and your in-laws curse you only for not giving them a ‘Ghar ka chirag’. Then why can’t you tell all those b**tards that it was their son who was incapable of passing on those chromosomes that lead to the birth of a male child?

It is so because our mothers prepare us mentally to quietly take all allegations n shit that elders give you after marriage.

5. You are not supposed to work late in office. And you even being competent, abide by these rules coz for a woman career is the last priority as ‘family comes first’ is the concept that we are brought up with, while all males can happily enjoy peak in their careers.

This is what we have been made and we are making our daughters, an individual with no rights to expression, independence, enjoyment, speech, fun, pleasure etc etc etc…..

So fellow mothers, it’s time to change your mindset so that your daughters are raised rightly. Don’t suppress your daughter’s freedom, let her raise voice against any wrong happening to her physically and emotionally, make her career conscious and financially independent, hear and respect her opinions; don’t set boundaries for her, let her decide for herself.

It’s time to teach your boys that even she is a complete individual, not just the other half.

Trust me, if you stand for her today, she will stand for herself and her daughter tomorrow. Mothers, only you have the power to bring this change and pass it on to generations to follow.

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.