My husband left me with one child but this ‘New man’ gave me the love I was longing for. 99

She is sweet, strong woman with undoubtedly, good looks and attractive personality. She motivates many other business women….. how to be a good manager, good listener to clients and have perfect marketing and sales skills. She owns a renowned boutique in the town, that has taken a decade of her hard work to build this name.

But this is just what we see. What we don’t see is that from inside she is broken, harassed and in a bad relationship with a man whom she met a few years back. In spite of no approval from her parents for love marriage because of different religion and caste, she got married to him in the court of law. Her decision turned unfortunate soon, as the love of her life was not only unemployed but had a different opinion about life, sex and women.

She was not only humiliated and harassed physically, mentally, sexually but also financially. After the birth of her son, she thought her husband’s mother and sisters and even he himself would change. But her blind love story made her living a nightmare with an unemployed husband until she with help of her parents decided to start a small boutique.

Since then, her diligence and toil had borne many fruits in her boutique business but for her husband and mother in law, she was just a slave worker, who would work the whole day at home as well as boutique and please him at night as his mistress. In ten years, she was earning about one lakh rupees for her husband and his family, who would never respect her or help her in any work in home or boutique. Her husband not only was lazy, violent but drug addict too. When he got to know about her little savings, he decided to shift to Canada alone with that money in search of employment.

Now, she was double minded, to let him or not. Because she still loved him, somewhere and wanted the father of her son to stay close to her. But that selfish man went away and never contacted her, leave apart sending money as a help.

She was even more traumatized and felt helpless but her son was a big motivation for her. Time passed by and after few months, she came in touch with this new guy through a common friend, who fell in love with her instantly. This new guy was also married, but could not find a soulmate in his partner from 15 years of marriage. So this new guy became like an understanding partner in her life.  Soon she started dating him and enjoying his company.

Time passed by and after few months, she came in touch with this new guy through a common friend, who fell in love with her instantly. This new guy was also married, but could not find a soulmate in his partner from 15 years of marriage. So this new guy became like an understanding partner in her life.  Soon she started dating him and enjoying his company.

They used to meet each other every fortnight and spend quality time together. They are supporting each other emotionally and physically. Life got a new meaning for both. Their friendship gave them what they were longing for in their marital relationship.

Though this new guy wants to divorce his present wife and start a new life with her, after the unsuccessful and horrifying experience, she does not want to marry anyone. She only wants to continue his friendship and support and nothing more.

Now my question here is….Is this wrong?

She surely has the liberty to live her life freely with somebody who understands as well as love him. Though the society will not approve this ever and she will get all types of names possible…’ Badchalan( characterless) etc etc but whats the point to become a ‘Sati Savitri’ for the kind of husband she had?

She wants to live in her own way now focussing on future of his son. So, what’s wrong with it?

For me, Go on girl… Jee le apni zindagi!

But what about you? I know few of you must be having an awful feeling for her coz what she is doing is so called ‘Unethical & Unacceptable’ as a married woman. But do you have better suggestions for her??

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.