Reasons Why Children Need Grandparents. 10

“Happiness is: Being pampered by your grandparents”

It’s that time of the year again when children finish their exams and all are set to enjoy the next couple of months of holidays with various activities planned ahead. On the last day of exams, I asked each of my daughter friends about their holiday’s plan. Each of the girls told me that they plan to visit their grandparents and stay with ‘them for holidays. While some said, “I love to play with my grandma” and some said, my “Dadu has promised me to teach bicycle this summer and take me along with him to the park on his morning walks”.

Such simple and sheer joy in the kid’s voices radiated a true happiness. I understand some of us are in different places and far off that there is a really no choice to be together. Well, that is a really an unfortunate situation. However, there are people who blatantly ignore their children spending time with their age old parents thinking what the grandparents teach is out of fashion.

Be it out of fashion, be it something that is not suitable for an upscale societal status, children need to spend time with their grandparents if they are with you and around. Why is it a must? Here are my reasons.

Treasure of experiences

Grandparents are a valuable resource because they have so many stories and experiences from their own lives to share. This sharing creates a bond that helps children to open up and share their difficulties & problems with them and find solutions easily. After all, they know the world better than us.

To instil better values

If you think all the better qualities you have is self-learned, think again coz they are our grandparents who help us to learn good qualities in a subtle way.  They teach the most basic things of any relationship to their grandchildren- Love, Patience and forgiveness. Close grandparent-grandchild relationships during the teenage years help eradicate behavioural and emotional problems in kids and make them better socially adjusted individual.

Healthier kids

I have seen many of my friends complain that every time their kids come back home after visiting their grandparents for a days or weeks, they are heavier and gained weight. While keeping an eye on the weight gain, let’s accept the fact that our children look more healthy and happy. Their knowledge and experience with healthy recipes will definitely make our kids eat well.

More Time

It’s far better for your child to play a board of scrabble than playing it on his Ipad. While we are busy making a living, grandparents have more time to spend with our children and they will be more than happy to spend a couple of hours that keeps both engaged. They offer an extra ear when kids need someone to talk to. For kids, having grandparents around means having the perfect companions to play with and have fun.

Boosting up the confidence

Well, for a grandparent no doubt, their Munna or Munni is the best and they will not shy away in encouraging their grandchild in everything they do. They will also correct the wrongs as well as encourage simple talents in your kids. They are the best partners when it comes to using creativity and imagination to discover the wonders of life.What more can we ask, isn’t it?

Give sense of belonging

They also offer a link to a child’s cultural heritage and family history. Children understand more of who they are and where they come from through their connection with their grandparents and this really help kids to understand and adopt our culture and traditions.

With Silver in hair and Gold in the heart, every grandparent is the best gift a child could have in his or her young age. Do not steal those simple joys your child could experience in the name of ego, impatience, lack of time, or any other reasons which separate them spending time together. Simply put, having grandparents around is good for everyone.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naïve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.