Reasons Why Children Need Grandparents. 812

“Happiness is: Being pampered by your grandparents”

It’s that time of the year again when children finish their exams and all are set to enjoy the next couple of months of holidays with various activities planned ahead. On the last day of exams, I asked each of my daughter friends about their holiday’s plan. Each of the girls told me that they plan to visit their grandparents and stay with ‘them for holidays. While some said, “I love to play with my grandma” and some said, my “Dadu has promised me to teach bicycle this summer and take me along with him to the park on his morning walks”.

Such simple and sheer joy in the kid’s voices radiated a true happiness. I understand some of us are in different places and far off that there is a really no choice to be together. Well, that is a really an unfortunate situation. However, there are people who blatantly ignore their children spending time with their age old parents thinking what the grandparents teach is out of fashion.

Be it out of fashion, be it something that is not suitable for an upscale societal status, children need to spend time with their grandparents if they are with you and around. Why is it a must? Here are my reasons.

Treasure of experiences

Grandparents are a valuable resource because they have so many stories and experiences from their own lives to share. This sharing creates a bond that helps children to open up and share their difficulties & problems with them and find solutions easily. After all, they know the world better than us.

To instil better values

If you think all the better qualities you have is self-learned, think again coz they are our grandparents who help us to learn good qualities in a subtle way.  They teach the most basic things of any relationship to their grandchildren- Love, Patience and forgiveness. Close grandparent-grandchild relationships during the teenage years help eradicate behavioural and emotional problems in kids and make them better socially adjusted individual.

Healthier kids

I have seen many of my friends complain that every time their kids come back home after visiting their grandparents for a days or weeks, they are heavier and gained weight. While keeping an eye on the weight gain, let’s accept the fact that our children look more healthy and happy. Their knowledge and experience with healthy recipes will definitely make our kids eat well.

More Time

It’s far better for your child to play a board of scrabble than playing it on his Ipad. While we are busy making a living, grandparents have more time to spend with our children and they will be more than happy to spend a couple of hours that keeps both engaged. They offer an extra ear when kids need someone to talk to. For kids, having grandparents around means having the perfect companions to play with and have fun.

Boosting up the confidence

Well, for a grandparent no doubt, their Munna or Munni is the best and they will not shy away in encouraging their grandchild in everything they do. They will also correct the wrongs as well as encourage simple talents in your kids. They are the best partners when it comes to using creativity and imagination to discover the wonders of life.What more can we ask, isn’t it?

Give sense of belonging

They also offer a link to a child’s cultural heritage and family history. Children understand more of who they are and where they come from through their connection with their grandparents and this really help kids to understand and adopt our culture and traditions.

With Silver in hair and Gold in the heart, every grandparent is the best gift a child could have in his or her young age. Do not steal those simple joys your child could experience in the name of ego, impatience, lack of time, or any other reasons which separate them spending time together. Simply put, having grandparents around is good for everyone.

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“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1357

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.

Marriage – the funniest ironical institution in India 221

Many people would not be able to figure out the mistake in the following figure. Well, there is no grammatical mistake, there is no printing error or any other fault in it. If you still haven’t figured it out, I have an answer for you, I would like you to face the ironical reality of the modern world or the 21st century where the thoughts and ideologies of Paleolithic age still prevails.

Women have always been considered as a pillar of the society, we have given her various names, we worship her, pamper her and consider her to be the live giver; there is nothing wrong in it. However, it blows my mind to see such kind of ideas still prevail in the society. I personally feel that a woman gets a chance to change her life, the first time she is born, the second time her life changes when she gets married and the third time she changes her life when she gives birth to a new life. But, amidst all this ebb and flow of life cycle, why is there a question that she needs to answer every time. Why is there a need to prove that she can equally love her parent and in-laws? Well, if you feel that I am proclaiming something different, then you must have a look at the picture here.

I find arrange marriages to be the funniest institution in India. Irrespective of the fact that I am a party to it, I still believe that it has some funny traditions and beliefs flowing in it. I would like to highlight a few-

  • The first thing that we say in India is, “Shaadi hamesha barabari ke khaandaan mein honi chahiye (One should get married in a family who is equal in status with the other),” Well, if that is true, why this equivalence is only restricted to money, why no one questions on thoughts, beliefs, ideas, vision etc. Yes, money is important to run a family, but imagine a situation where you have a big house, a big car etc. but both husband and wife are never on the same page. Is that the mantra for a happy married life? At least I don’t feel so.
  • Another popular phrase which we commonly here during the marriage is that “Shaadi to parivaaro ka mail hai ( Marriage is not between two people, it is the bonding of two families,” if that is so, why a girl has to put her in-laws first and ignore her parents. If that’s not the truth, I would again request you to run through the picture above. Why can’t both the families co-exist. Although, things are changing, the ground reality is different.
  • One of the common things I have heard is, “ Ladki ko sasural ke hisab se adjust karna chahiye (girl must learn to compromise and live as per her in-laws and husband),” there is nothing wrong in it and I too believe in it, but what if we tweaked this scenario, like both the parties can make slight adjustments so that everyone is happy and the guy or the husband doesn’t have to take sides.

What I have written is not new or neither revolutionary, I have actually started to find our society to be hilarious. We are never in a phase to create an equal world, rather we always pester on the fact that one has to be above, I think this hierarchical ideology is still haunting us since the time of Britishers. I don’t know how much change will come in the times to come, but, even if one person transforms after reading this, I will feel content.