With Very High Expectations For Love, I am hopelessly unmarried!

    I am a sucker for romantic movies. Whenever I go to a wedding, I cry sentimental tears. Since a little girl, I knew I was a hopeless romantic. I’m still somehow hopeful that these fantasies could exist for me. These are my fairytale dreams that may never translate into real life:

    I WANT THE PERFECT MAN TO APPEAR

    I always hope against hope that somehow he’ll just fall out of the sky and into my lap. I never meet guys that I like, and this would make everything much easier! I wish for serendipity to hit so he’s suddenly right there in front of me. I don’t want to accept that it might take a lot of work and trial and error to find the right man.

    I WANT TO BE WOOED

    I want the most romantic of men, who leave flowers on my doorstep and special notes on my pillow. I imagine him wanting to be with me more than any man has ever wanted any woman, and I want that special treatment to carry on forever. While I do honestly believe a man should act this way, in the beginning, I hate that it’s unlikely he’ll maintain it for our entire relationship.

    I WANT HIM TO VALUE ME ABOVE EVERYONE ELSE

    I need him to put me first and make me his one and only. He should have other important priorities in his life, I just don’t want them to take precedence over me. Of course, that’s not very realistic and I’m being a hypocrite. I don’t always put my boyfriends first, so how can I expect them to make me number one? I always end up disappointed because I feel second best.

    I WANT HIM TO THINK I’M THE MOST AMAZING CREATURE ALIVE

    I love the idea of a partner who worships me in all my perfect imperfection. No other woman exists for him — he doesn’t even notice them. I’m it. I’m “The One.” It sounds great on paper, but realistically, that’s a lot of pressure. That’s if I got that treatment at all, which I never do. Men generally aren’t as romantic and unrealistic as me. I end up feeling like I like them more than they like me, and that sucks.

    I WANT TO FEEL BUTTERFLIES ALL THE TIME

    I want to feel giddy every time he walks into a room. I want to be excited to see him no matter what. I want to be sad when we’re apart and miss him the entire time until we’re reunited. I don’t want any of that to go away. In reality, this is not something anyone can maintain. Even though I love the idea, I can acknowledge that it’s not healthy. It’s more a sign of co-dependence than anything. Still, I somehow wish for it.

    I WANT US TO NEVER EVER GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHER

    In my fantasy world, we can spend all the time in the world together and never tire of it. We don’t get irritated or bored. We simply love being around each other. In reality? That’s not gonna be the case. The reality is that it’s very difficult to be around anyone all the time without wanting to kill each other. People need some space.

    I WANT AMAZING, LASTING SEXUAL CHEMISTRY

    Sex is an unavoidably essential element of a great relationship, and in my mind, I picture a happy life filled with blissfully exciting bedroom action with a single partner. If we are right for each other, we’ll never get tired of it … but again, reality falls short of that mark. Dating is complicated and so is sex. It’s impossible to keep it entirely fresh and new when you’re sleeping with the same person over and over again. I find that depressing.

    I WANT OUR RELATIONSHIP TO BE EASY

    I know they’re never entirely easy, but I feel like they shouldn’t be so damn hard either. I want us to get along well all the time, hardly ever fight, and experience very little conflict. I want to be consistently happy together. In the real world, relationships are damn hard work and they take effort and commitment. I don’t think I’m willing to give all that right now.

    I WANT CONSTANT CHANGE AND ADVENTURE

    I get bored in my own life unless I’m shaking it up a lot, and I want all that and more with a partner. I want it to be a thrilling ride full of travel and excitement and ever-changing activities. It seems so romantic. Realistically, that’s very hard to maintain. A normal relationship requires some routine and stability, which sounds boring.

    I WANT US TO AGREE ON EVERYTHING

    There are major issues that come up when you navigate life with another person by your side. I want to be with someone who agrees with me on all of them so that we don’t have any huge conflicts. I keep waiting to find the man who fits in with all my beliefs and opinions. Realistically, I probably won’t find a clone of myself. I’m not really willing to compromise how I feel about any of that stuff, so I don’t know if I should be in a relationship at all.

    I WANT UNCONDITIONAL TRUST AND LOVE FOREVER

    This is my all-encompassing dream. I want a man who I can trust and adore with all my heart who does the same in return. I want it to last our whole lives so I can stop worrying about all the romance stuff and focus on everything else. In real life, it’s very difficult to keep relationships healthy and happy forever. There’s a lot of disappointment and heartache involved, and I just don’t want to deal with it.

    Perhaps the world needs more hopeless romantics to not give up on their ideals. The world can be such a cruel place to be in. After all, hope can be such an irresistible reality and the concept of love drives them. Love is beautiful and scary, but finding love, the real kind is worth the wait.

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    With Very High Expectations For Love, I am hopelessly unmarried!