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Is marriage – a roller coaster ride or a merry go round??

Getting married is a wonderful feeling. Every time when I hear a distant cousin or someone telling me that their marriage dates have been decided by the elders and everyone are excited and anxiously waiting to start that new life, I stand on a tiptoe to give my piece of advice. Because am sure every married woman would have thought at least once in their life as “if only someone had told me before that this is how marriage is going to be”. Oh! Well, I’ am prepared that it is most likely that I can get thrown out for unnecessary poking my nose in someone peace and happiness. But trust me there are many things to know before you change your status from single to married.

Here are a few things for you to keep in mind if you are soon going to be married.

  1. On a positive note, everything will not change after marriage if you have found a right partner and if you are in the right relationship. If not, trust me, its going to be a roller coaster ride.

  2. That promise you make that you will care and look after your spouse health (in sickness) will come more often that you would not have dreamed off. So, be ready to be a nurse for life. 😉

  3. You will be surprised to see many old or unnoticed or new habits in your spouse that you were never aware of and……. some of them are really annoying. After all, you have not stayed together as long as you will now after marriage, isn’t it?… Truly they say…’Love is Blind’.

  4. If you think you are marrying a MAN, you are mistaken. Let me correct you here, you are soon to be married to the entire family of your man, not the man alone. So be prepared for all kind of ‘expectations’ Or ‘unrealistic expectations’, I must say!

  5. After marriage, you will realize that there’s no rule book on marriage and things will not work out the same way as your parents worked it out. So if you have any pre-assumptions for ‘how marriage works’, it’s my advice to just demolish all such mental assumptions. Am I scaring you? 😉

  6. You will soon become a superwoman coz things that you thought you could never do, will actually become ‘the part’ of your life. Hey, you need examples? Here they are….., cleaning, washing, wipe vomit and poop(Mind it, it’s not only of your own kids), cooking,  etc

  7. Marriage will help you know your patience and tolerance level. And yes, beware coz you will be exposed to the limits.

  8. The temporary memory loss of men is unaccountable because it will become so often that you will start wondering what if your spouse is beginning to show signs of early amnesia. But yes, you will not be allowed to forget even one single thing, event, incidence, discussion, task etc etc…. Being a woman of the house, you are accountable for remembering everything.So, don’t forget to feed a list of reminders in your mobile. See, only technology will help, no other will!

  9. There can be fights on the silliest of the matter. It’s not a problem as long as you know how to deal with it. Don’t forget to do a course on ‘how to be crafty in relationships’ before prefixing ‘Mrs…..’ to your name.

  10. If you are hoping that your spouse may change after marriage and you try to ignore any issues, then you are wrong. Coz nothing… no one will change as they really don’t want to. Be ready to accept him as it is and without any expectation.

  11. Do not be shocked with the things of similar likings may not be same later on. High chances that you will find more things of both of you disagreeing with each other than agreeable.

  12. Having children is not always a joyful moment. You seriously have to be prepared for it, both physically and mentally. No matter who you have for help, you will be on your own.

  13. After marriage you realize the good looks and beauty that you were attracted in the first place, does not matter at all instead, it is the person within is whom you loved. Decide wisely and shift your criteria now. Oldies says, a good man is long lasting in a relationship than good looks.

  14. Contrary to any phrases such as “my other half”, marriage is two whole people. It is all about knowing about two individuals and there is nothing as the other half. Trust me also when people say “one + one =2” Marriage is one + one = 3. Know well that you are responsible for every act and anything you do.

  15. If it’s an arranged marriage, you may not fall in love immediately after marriage. It takes a time to fall in love. All the best!!

  16. Last but not the least, you will be expected to be a ‘Super compromiser’ regarding your likes, dislikes, career, thoughts, point of view, choice of clothes, choice of food etc etc….You have to compromise on everything. In rare cases, men or his family will. If they do, you are lucky!

All I want to say is being married is fun and exciting but at the same time it is also stressful and can be very confusing initially. It’s OK if nothing works perfectly. It’s all about learning, growing, progressing together. It’s about a lifetime of loving and sharing. As said, being married can be awesome because you will have someone to hold you for life and when in need but only if you choose wisely and prepared mentally.


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