Thanking The Women Who Help Us Every day 100

Today, the 8th March is celebrated as International Women’s Day and I thought what can be the best day to thank those women who had always been there for us. No! This is not yet another article who made it big and made a name all around the Globe. We have already read about all the things we can know about the powerful ladies who are a great inspiration such as Michele Obama, Kalpana Chawla, Kiran Majumdar Shaw, Sudha Murthy, etc. Yes! They all are a true inspiration however, there is someone else totally ordinary in our daily lives who make life much easier for us. Someone ordinary without whom our life can be harder on a daily basis.

I request you all, to join me in thanking these women and give some credit to their part in our lives.

1. Our Domestic help

Is it safe to say that our day is down the pit if our “Bai” took a day off? Informed or uninformed. Most of us are totally dependent on our domestic help who makes it easy for us to manage the household work. These women deserve a big thanks for making our work easier, don’t they?

2. Cooks

Having less time when you have to juggle between the corporate world and the family life makes it extremely difficult to make time for cooking sometimes. Trust me! Cooking delicious food with a various menu for every meal is much time and energy consuming task and it is not everyone’s cup of tea. This is where the wonder woman in the form of a cook helps us by preparing all those yummy recipes.

3. Play-home teachers, nannies

Some of my friends visibly take relief when they drop their babies in the efficient hands of the play home teachers and nannies. Aren’t they somehow contributing to our free time and giving us some breathing time?

4. Stay home nannies

Getting married and having children is an inevitable part of our life and it should happen in the right age. However, that age is also when we are trying to make a mark in our career. You cannot give up on either part of the life. The stay at home nannies who help us 24/7 are more than just a nanny. They become a family member. Ms. Maitri Debroy who works as a Clinical Programmer in a software company says “ Without my Githa Di it is impossible for me to survive or to reach where I am today. She had been a backbone to me in everything. She is no less than a mother or a sister to me and we absolutely love her just like a family member”. Don’t these kinds of a woman deserve a note of appreciation?

5. Women in public services

There are plenty other services where we find women helping us. A waitress, a nurse, an air hostess, a receptionist, a medical assistant, child and women care provider, old age and patients care taker and much more. All these women help us in some way or the other making our lives and day easier.

Let’s take a minute to thank every one of them. Ladies you rock!!! You make our world much brighter.

Happy Women’s Day to all!!

(Note: This article is about those exceptional women who take their work seriously and have contributed with all their passion and love towards what they do.)

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“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1357

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.

Marriage – the funniest ironical institution in India 221

Many people would not be able to figure out the mistake in the following figure. Well, there is no grammatical mistake, there is no printing error or any other fault in it. If you still haven’t figured it out, I have an answer for you, I would like you to face the ironical reality of the modern world or the 21st century where the thoughts and ideologies of Paleolithic age still prevails.

Women have always been considered as a pillar of the society, we have given her various names, we worship her, pamper her and consider her to be the live giver; there is nothing wrong in it. However, it blows my mind to see such kind of ideas still prevail in the society. I personally feel that a woman gets a chance to change her life, the first time she is born, the second time her life changes when she gets married and the third time she changes her life when she gives birth to a new life. But, amidst all this ebb and flow of life cycle, why is there a question that she needs to answer every time. Why is there a need to prove that she can equally love her parent and in-laws? Well, if you feel that I am proclaiming something different, then you must have a look at the picture here.

I find arrange marriages to be the funniest institution in India. Irrespective of the fact that I am a party to it, I still believe that it has some funny traditions and beliefs flowing in it. I would like to highlight a few-

  • The first thing that we say in India is, “Shaadi hamesha barabari ke khaandaan mein honi chahiye (One should get married in a family who is equal in status with the other),” Well, if that is true, why this equivalence is only restricted to money, why no one questions on thoughts, beliefs, ideas, vision etc. Yes, money is important to run a family, but imagine a situation where you have a big house, a big car etc. but both husband and wife are never on the same page. Is that the mantra for a happy married life? At least I don’t feel so.
  • Another popular phrase which we commonly here during the marriage is that “Shaadi to parivaaro ka mail hai ( Marriage is not between two people, it is the bonding of two families,” if that is so, why a girl has to put her in-laws first and ignore her parents. If that’s not the truth, I would again request you to run through the picture above. Why can’t both the families co-exist. Although, things are changing, the ground reality is different.
  • One of the common things I have heard is, “ Ladki ko sasural ke hisab se adjust karna chahiye (girl must learn to compromise and live as per her in-laws and husband),” there is nothing wrong in it and I too believe in it, but what if we tweaked this scenario, like both the parties can make slight adjustments so that everyone is happy and the guy or the husband doesn’t have to take sides.

What I have written is not new or neither revolutionary, I have actually started to find our society to be hilarious. We are never in a phase to create an equal world, rather we always pester on the fact that one has to be above, I think this hierarchical ideology is still haunting us since the time of Britishers. I don’t know how much change will come in the times to come, but, even if one person transforms after reading this, I will feel content.