The Biggest Treasure of my Life! 916

Vibha was not home at her usual time and I sat with a cup of coffee when the phone rang.

“Hello, Maa! What are you doing? Had your coffee?” Asked Vibha from the other end.

Seeing the number on the caller Id I realized she has not yet left from work. I answered, “Just sat with a cuppa Vibha. Have you not left yet from work?”

“No mama, that’s why I called. There was a last minute decision on an important meeting that to be held and I had to stay back. So, I will be late. Tried to call Ansh too, but could not reach him. I must be home any moment. Will you please tell him as well. Ok, it’s getting late and I need to prepare for the meeting. Ok?”

I smiled into the phone while Vibha was talking and said OK before ending the call. I sat there sipping my coffee, wondering how soon children grow up. It felt like just yesterday when I called my mother in so many numerous occasions like this. Vibha and my son-in-law Ansh got married three years ago and because of his work they had to move to California. Vibha soon found a job in one of the software companies. I and my husband never wanted to have another child so Vibha was our only daughter. Now, I am staying with my daughter for a short while. I looked out into the window thinking about the time of Vibha’s birth.

“Beti huyi hai” announced the midwife when Vibha was born. My family stayed in a small town and the facilities of a hospital were less. Hence we had a woman nurse who visited me at home. Vibha was delivered at home and everyone in the house was sad that I gave birth to a girl child. Even my husband looked unhappy. But he could not stay without loving his own daughter and with all the love he began to accept our daughter.

Days/months passed while Vibha grew out to be the most intelligent child. People admired her wit, laughed at her baby antics and were surprised at her speed in grasping and understanding ability. Soon everyone in the family started to love her.

Now, years passed and she grew up to be a beautiful young woman and the day came when we have to see her married. Vibha and Ansh had been classmates from their Post graduation studies and liked each other and decided to get married once they finish their education and find a job. Both talked about it with us as well as with Ansh’s parents. Ansh is a very well behaved boy and we felt that he will take good care of our daughter and so we had no reason to say no to their marriage. On one such occasion when we visited a relative to invite them for Vibha marriage, my cousin asked me “ Bhabiji! So, Vibha will be married now and will go to her sasural. Isiliye, you should have had a son”

We were shocked to hear my cousin say so, but I was used to such comments numerous times by now, but Vibha did not take it lightly. She immediately jumped to answer “ Uncle, what makes you say that my parents should have had a son?”

“ Of course Vibha, if your parents had a son, he would have stayed with them and would have taken care, isn’t it? A girl has to go to sasural and she cannot take care of her parents”, answered my cousin.

“Uncle, I am sorry if I am rude, but I may be a daughter of my parents, but they do not need a son for support when they are in need” answered Vibha curtly.

Months passed again and soon Vibha was married. Right after a month of her marriage, my husband left me as he had a massive heart attack. Both Ansh and Vibha stayed with me for a couple of months. Ansh’s parents were always supportive and they took care of Vibha as their own daughter. Though there were minor disagreements now and then, Ansh always was careful to deal with the matter.

But one day, Vibha came home sad from work. Told me about Ansh job and they had to move to California. I was always prepared for this day because children need to go build their own lives, isn’t it? I just smiled at her and told her not to worry about me. I have plenty of things to keep me occupied and Vibha’s dad has left me enough savings that I can live without struggling for anything.

Soon, the day arrived and I said my goodbye to my daughter and my son-in-law who had become more than a son to me in just a few months. Returning back from the airport I felt a part of me is gone forever. I came home and cried so much missing Vibha. Days went by, and I started to feel lonely. Vibha called me as often as she could. One day she called me in excitement and told me that she is coming to see me. I don’t remember being this happy in my life ever. Finishing her call, I began to plan all the things I need to prepare before she arrives. Her favorite food, clothes, setting up her room and all the stuff. The day she arrived, nothing on earth made be happier looking at my child, standing at my door all grown up and independent. After a day or two, she informed me that I should get my passport done. We had some arguments as I did not want to move anywhere and not especially out of the country. But she was adamant and before she could go back she made sure all the process of applying for the passport was done for me. Soon within a month, the passport arrived and my flight was booked. I reached California and found both Ansh and Vibha waiting for me in the airport.

I looked at the coffee that was cold in my hands. Thinking about the days in India and since the day I arrived here are so different now. Vibha had never made me feel that I need a son even for a second. She has been a daughter to me that many sons cannot be. Today I feel proud that I gave birth to a daughter. Son or a daughter they are the same. Right then the calling bell sounded and I went to open the door “ Ma, did Vibha come yet” asked Ansh walking in, placing his office bag on the table.

I told him about Vibha’s call that she will be late.

“ Oh is it, no problem and I see, you forgot to drink your coffee hot again” smiled Ansh looking at my coffee cup that I had before when I had drifted to my old thoughts.

“Ok, Ma! I am doing a fresh cup for myself. Let me do it for you too. I have some interesting things to tell you that happened today in the office”

We had a cup of coffee together. Ansh shared his day with me while Vibha walked in too. We altogether had our dinner and went to bed.

I cannot thank God enough for giving me a daughter and a son-in-law who is more than a son to me. There is no comparison between a daughter and a son. Both are equal as long as they are grown with good principles and a sense of responsibility.

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.