THE PREGNANT DEER – such a beautiful story! 113

While scrolling my WhatsApp messages today, I read a beautiful story which I would like to share with my readers. Read along and I am sure that by the end, the message will amaze you. Happy reading folks!! Here it goes…….

THE PREGNANT DEER – such a beautiful story!

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth. She finds a remote grass field near a strong flowing river. This seems a safe place. Suddenly labour pains begin. At the same moment, dark clouds gather around above & lightning starts a forest fire. She looks to her left & sees a hunter with his bow extended pointing at her. To her right, she spots a hungry lion approaching her.
What can the pregnant deer do?

She is in labour! What will happen?

Will the deer survive? Will she give birth to a fawn?

Will the fawn survive? Or will everything be burnt by the forest fire?

Will she perish to the hunters’ arrow?

Will she die a horrible death at the hands of the hungry lion approaching her?

She is constrained by the fire on the one side & the flowing river on the other & boxed in by her natural predators.

You must be wondering…. What does she do?

She closes her eyes and focuses on giving birth to a new life.

The sequence of events that follows are:

Lightning strikes & blinds the hunter.

He releases the arrow which zips past the deer & strikes the hungry lion.

It starts to rain heavily, & the forest fire is slowly doused by the rain.

The deer gives birth to a healthy fawn.

In our life too, there are moments of choice when we are confronted on αll sides with negative thoughts and possibilities.Some thoughts are so powerful that they overcome us & overwhelm us. Maybe we can learn from the deer. The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply to give birth to a baby. The rest was not in her hands & any action or reaction that changed her focus would have likely resulted in death or disaster.

Ask yourself, Where is your focus? Where is your faith and hope?

In the midst of any storm, do keep faith on CREATOR always. He will never ever disappoint you. NEVER. Remember, He neither slumber nor sleep !! Strong people knows how to keep their life in order. Even with tears in their eyes, they still manage to say ‘I’m Ok’ with a smile.

Be honest and share this with anyone who makes you smile.

Be blessed!!

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If you have the ability to love, Love Yourself first! 324

YES…..Marry yourself first.

The concept of loving oneself is not new. We have TED talks, articles and movies that are spreading more and more awareness about the importance of self-love. My induction into the concept happened some three years back when I was facing some personal challenges. The situations forced me to take a hard look at some patterns that I could not stop. I wanted answers and looked into the plethora of spiritual resources – Osho, TED talks, Buddhism, psychology studies. Even though my journey with self-love started long back, I can only now (after three years) say that I truly understand and live the concept.

The concept is very simple. We reflect our shortcomings on other people. When something bothers, upsets, anger, or just irritates us in another person, it is very rare outside of us. If someone else can upset you – you have given your power and energy away. Having realized this, I set on this mission to never let anyone else get under my skin. My approach was incorrect. I saw the symptom – which was my irritation – and I jumped to eliminating it. I did not spend time introspecting the cause of the irritation or anger in the first place. The cause was simple – I did not accept myself completely. I did not accept my shortcomings and flaws. Hence, when someone else triggered my flaws, I did not exhibit the awareness to understand, register and let the irritation go. Instead, I reacted.

How could this go on? I have family, friends, work colleagues. I spend time with all of them. However, the one person I do not get any rest from is myself. I have to live in my body, in my mind, in my soul – all my life. Even when I sleep, my overactive imagination sends messages through dreams! It is impossible to get away from myself and I would be a fool not to try loving myself!

Self-love does not work in isolation of self-work. In order to love myself, it was important for me to follow these three steps:


A lot of introspection to helps me understand myself better. When I am not surrounded by people who validate my existence, how do I validate it on my own? Who am I when no one is watching? This was tough. Mix the social life in the city with work – you hardly spend time with yourself. I had to make conscious efforts of turning down invitations if my heart wanted to spend time with myself. Eventually, I could see a clear shift. From being restless with spending time with myself, I started enjoying my cuppa, book and diary. Now I am at a point that me-time is one of the most rejuvenating parts of my schedule.


Introspection is not always pretty. The process does not always involve a cup of coffee and a faint smile on the face. Introspection has a very honest face which exposes your shortcomings and flaws. Oh, how tough this stage was for me! I had been dealing with anger issues for a long time and only now was I beginning to understand that anger was just a symptom. There were layers of self-doubt and self-defense that had shifted my primary response to anger. I had to accept it and let go of the guilt with it. I saw myself as I was. Not as others saw me. The moment we think anyone is watching, we lose our true selves.

The reality is what is inside you. This step is the toughest. We are tuned to come up with excuses for our behavior – ‘the circumstances are tough, hence I act out’, ‘I have grown up seeing anger, hence I react with it too’, ‘nobody understands me’, ‘my work is demanding and I do not have time for feelings’. We are also tuned to protect ourselves – hence more often than not, our justification for reacting to a situation in a certain way will be very comforting. We forget to question in that moment why circumstances triggered the emotions we felt. That is key. Undiluted honesty.

Pat yourself on the back

However, another very important part of acceptance is giving yourself a pat on the back for the strength in your character. I maintain a gratefulness journal and every now and then, I would write down my strong qualities that had either been passed on by my parents or that I had built. I am grateful for being the person I am, albeit with flaws.


This part was easy. I knew my flaws. I understood them. I understood what triggered them. It was time to let go. I worked on letting go my anger and of transforming myself into a person I would want to spend time with. It is an ongoing life project and I can say it is the most rewarding one. I am building myself every day.

None of the above has a start and end date. It is a cyclical process. However, once you pass the first cycle truthfully, you will look at yourself in the mirror and feel happy with the person you see. I got married in Dec of last year and it is only recently this year that I could say with certainty that I love the person I have become and I would be happy to spend the rest of my life with myself.

People often confuse this self-love with selfishness. To those people, I would appeal – please go through the cycle J, your introspection might well reveal your inability to love yourself, triggering you to reject my ability to self-love. If in doubt, if in a reactive mode, just ask yourself – would you want to spend the rest of your life with this person?

Reasons why fasting is better than regular dieting. 108

With the onset of monsoon in India comes the holy fasting of Mondays…..’Sawan Ke Somvaar’ as we call it.

Most of us fast to worship Lord Shiva, but the reasons for fasting might vary among individuals. Most people fast for their religious beliefs. Fasting for religious belief has its own advantage. This is a way to show gratitude for the blessings in the form of family and friends and the life we are living. This shows that we have undaunted faith in the supreme power. This faith gives us the courage to keep going whenever life knocks us down.

Many of us fast to detoxify our body and brain. Fasting to detoxify gives body much-needed nourishment. Even if it’s a day long fast it gives our body a break. When we fast we stay away from the over-indulgence, in a way we feel content in whatever little we have on the day we fast. This feeling of contentment even if it’s a short-lived is a boost to the brain health.

Fasting can be a safe way to lose weight too. It allows the body to burn through fat cells more effectively than just regular dieting.

Fasting Improves Insulin Sensitivity so it’s a good news for diabetic people.

Fasting helps to regulate the hormones in your body so that you experience what true hunger is.

When fasting is done with full faith it offers us some psychological benefits too. Fasting is not only stopping ourselves from the over-indulgence of food but when fasting one should try to stay away from all other clutter too. Try to stay as calm as possible. Avoid the feeling of anger, revenge, jealousy, comparison and all sort of competition. Feel the love and blessed and try to be happy on the day you are fasting. Happiness is a habit, though we all know that it gets difficult to follow it in today’s scenario where we are running to outrun others.The fasting has no meaning if you are cursing others for whatever reason.

Fasting for self-enlightenment, allows us to feel better both consciously and physically. With a lighter body and a clearer mind, we become more aware and grateful for the things around us.

When we stay happy and calm, it makes our vision clear and there is a whole new perspective of life. Going on regular fasting with the feeling of happiness and contentment refreshes and recharge our mind, body and soul.

Remember, you don’t have to starve when you are fasting. Give your body the nourishment that it needs. Have plenty of fluids (of course, not the Coke and Pepsi stuff). Eat lots of fruits.

Happy fasting!!