The spirits of festivities -Then & Now 76

The festival of colours has bid goodbye but the impact of it can still be seen all over. The air still beholds the smell of colours. The road, the balcony, the verandah of the houses and even the faces of the people are still telling the story of the festival that has just gone.

After finishing the morning chores, I was in the balcony, standing to let the cool breeze caresses me.  There is a strong connection between me and the cool breeze. It refreshes my soul. I was lost in my thoughts and was completely soaked in the essence of the beautiful morning. The memories of the moments spent with the family and friends during the Holi was knocking on the door of my mind. It amazed me how these festivals unite us with the bond of love. Our next door neighbour is not from the same community yet we celebrate each other’s festivals with the same zeal and enthusiasm.

Festivals give us a chance to steal a day from the mundane metro life and to paint the town with the spirits of festivities.

I bet many of you will agree that the celebration of festivals doesn’t give the same contentment now as they used to be when we were a child.  That spirit of the childhood Holi has lost its charm over the years.

I can still recollect those memories. How festivals used to be a week-long affair rather than just a one-day celebration as it has become now. How I totally loved to gorge on those delicacies prepared by my mother. The taste of those delicacies is still fresh on my taste buds.


Now neither those delicacies are eaten because of the fear of those calories and nor they are prepared with the same enthusiasm. Malpuas, Gujjias, Puran polis and other mouth-watering sweets which are considered to be Holi specialities are unheard of these days.We mostly rely on the market bought snacks and sweets to gift and to greet the guests. Don’t we?

The moments celebrated earlier were not captured by any camera but the images are still stored in the memory. The moment we close our eyes and refresh those memories stored, the clear images of those moments appear.

Now we capture each and every moment of festivals only to share them on FB to show off and get likes.

Over the years, as modernization, every single activity has become monetized, the true meaning of these festivals is becoming moribund. Instead of Gulaal and pichkaris, the spirit of Holi is celebrated through DJ & Rain Dance parties all over. Even I had one in my society.

In nutshell, the festivals in India are losing their charm as we celebrate festivals all over the social media with our friends through the pictures and status updates but not enjoying them with the same spirits like we used to do – a food for thought.

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Let us become ‘Queen’!! 190

The other day, I was watching a movie called ‘Queen’ on TV. I did watch it earlier also but that day it gave me a food for thought. I realised that mental strength is a great asset every woman is born with. Having physical stamina is one thing but a woman should have strong mental stamina too. Frankly, the world we live in it would be hard for a woman with the weak mental strength to survive. It’s 2017 and our politicians don’t leave a chance to degrade women, not to forget the personal obstacles we must face in our day to day life. Mental strength makes us tough to ignore the nonsense and reach a state of peace where what others say or think doesn’t matter. This made me write about a few characteristics every strong woman has –

1. We Embrace Change

A mentally strong woman takes life as it comes. She accepts change with a smile no matter how challenging it is. She understands the fact that change is inevitable. As she knows being stuck won’t do any good, instead, she fights back with full force.

2. We don’t sulk over the past

The best quality of a mentally strong woman is, she doesn’t cling to her past for too long, that doesn’t imply that she is heartless, it’s just that she chooses herself over someone who has hurt her and looks in the direction of building a better future.

3. We don’t Give up

Women with strong vigor know that failure is part and parcel in the journey of life. We have a strong will and don’t give up so easily. We are fighter’s and achieve what we desire, despite few setbacks.

4. We celebrate when others succeed

We don’t get upset when other women succeed because we aren’t mean at heart and most importantly we don’t feel threatened by anyone’s success. We know everyone will get a fair chance to prove themselves, after all, there is enough room for everyone.

5. We stand on the foundation of faith rather than fear

We know that “Fear and faith” cannot live together. When you are afraid of something how can you fight against it? A mentally strong woman chooses faith over worry and believes that everything is going to be alright. She trusts god and does whatever is in her capacity.

6. We know there is no need to please everyone

There is one hard fact we all should learn, it’s not necessary to please everyone to like you. We accept the fact that if someone doesn’t like us it’s their problem, not ours. A mentally strong woman won’t change herself for others, she always honor’s herself.

Here’s to strong women. May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.

How I was Duped? 180

This happened many years back, probably in 2011, early months of my marriage. Till date, I still feel ashamed of my naivety. However, I would like to share my story with you all, hoping to warn, if you find yourself in any such a situation. Although I doubt anyone can be as stupid as me, but opportunist and cheaters are found everywhere. So be warned and be careful.

It was one of those busy and hot summer days and I was totally engrossed in my work at home when suddenly the door bell rang. I’ am always careful not opening the door to strangers and so opened the window to check who it was. There was a salesman who wanted to do a survey on a new toothbrush that was introduced into the market. He said he will give me three brand new toothbrush for free and he will be back after a week. I am supposed to use the brush and answer few questions for his survey. Along with that, he will also give me a ticket with a number which has a lucky draw. There were different prizes and if my ticket wins he will get the prizes along with him the next week. All in all, I thought there is no harm in taking those sealed brushes with the ticket. I took them and kept it aside and forgot all about it.

After a week, the same man appeared in front of my door again. I remembered him very well. He said I have won some gifts worth 800/- Rs items and he showed them all to me. He asked me for the ticket. I searched all around the house but in vain and told him that I have lost the lucky draw slip. He told me that there is another customer who have won a refrigerator and those people have shifted their house. He can give that lucky draw slip to me along with the other gifts that I have won and all I need to do is pay him 600/- Rs and I will be getting the refrigerator too. He said he will also give me his phone number and his office number if I need to check. For a moment I could not believe my luck and got carried away. For more than a year I was talking to my husband about buying a new refrigerator as ours was an old model and desperately wanted one.

Now, this man tells me that I would be getting a refrigerator of a lucky draw, was like a God sent a gift and I did not think further. Though I was doubtful, the man convinced me that I need to pay first as he needs to report about the changes in his office to send the refrigerator to my address. Finally, I gave in and paid him 600 Rs and took the other gifts. He said he will be back within an hour. Once he left, I had to finish some work. Later when I got free, I checked the other free items that he gave me and found them all used items and some of them broken though the packs were new. Then is when I realized of foul play and called the phone numbers he gave me. One of the numbers went to a gold shop and the other to a placement consultancy. I realized that I was duped by the salesman and there is no refrigerator on its way reaching our home.

I consoled myself thinking that I was lucky enough that the man did not hit me on my head and steal the house. I learned my lesson and since then I am always careful with people around who wants to sell something to us.