Almost every school has reopened after lengthy summer holidays and children started gearing up for the new academic. New books, uniform, shoes, and many other new items depending on the necessity.
Being back from school on her first day, my daughter, sat with her Harry Potter book continuing the story where she had left in the holidays (the previous day of course) Soon, an argument broke out between her and my husband that she need to stop reading novels that the school has started and should start reading school books.
Although what my husband advised her is true to some extent, I wondered what many of us do is such an injustice to our children. Is reading the school books and scoring the top marks in their academic is all that children need to learn in their growing ages?
Well, I think there is more to life than scoring high marks in the academics. We already have plenty evidence all over the internet of successful people who had failed in their academic education. However, let’s assume our children might not become the Bill Gates or Steve Jobs, but they still need to learn many things that are neither taught in school nor in their books. So what are they?
Today’s children miss out a great deal on the importance of having a conversation. Either they are busy with their books or with their gadgets. To make an easy conversation is an art that should be learned since a young age and it is very important for children to learn because it’s needed wherever they go. Be it with a boss, a coworker, with loved ones, neighbors, acquaintances, and friends, or with anyone. Knowing the right way of making a conversation without showing anger or sounding too needy is something children need to learn that are not taught in schools and books.
Do not be afraid to give a little money in the hands of your child. Afraid that they will lose it or spend it without a thought? It is fine as long as they know the consequences of their acts. Children need to learn how to handle the money. Just like how every subject in the school has practicals, the math they learn also need to have practicals. The subject maths is applicable in their entire life and there is no better way than letting them learn by facing it in real life. Go for shopping and let your child make the payment by making the calculations themselves. Let them make mistakes and let them learn from it.
Importance of relationships
Children need to know the importance of relationships. Most families opting for only one child these days, children do not get exposed to various types of relationships in life and they look up to us as an example. The importance of having a family, grandparents and cousins etc should be taught from an early age for them to understand.
Boy or a girl, do not stop them learning the basic culinary skills and simple methods of cooking a dish. Cooking is one of the survival skill and it is a must learn for both the gender. When we are fighting for equality, there is no shame for a boy to learn cooking. The same goes for a girl too.
Surviving without technology
During the holidays, one day all at a sudden my daughter told me that she wished we did not have the UPS system that provides electricity at home 24/7 even when there are power cuts. I was surprised because everyone does prefer it, and here she is telling me that she do not. I did ask her…. why? For which she said, years back when we did not have the system and at the time of power cuts in the night I stopped my work and instead spent time with her until the power came back. Studies were postponed. We spent time together playing and I told her stories. That was more fun and now without any power cuts, am always busy. Well, I had not answer because she was right. Hence, let our children learn to limit the use of technology. Doing things in age-old ways is more fun sometimes.
The most important in today’s world is to teach our children how to fight and protect themselves. Be it verbally or physically. One should learn the confidence to stand for themselves and fight for their rights. Education plays a strong role, however that is not enough. Learning physical self-defense will help them save from any danger of being attacked. Though none of us wants that, we never know what the future holds.
Learning from failure
The reason for the increase in suicides among children is because they have never faced failure. We parents are always ready at the threshold to rescue them from any kind of pain or failure and before they could face, they are thrown back at the cushion of safety. Let them fail, let them face life, but always be there to hold hands and make them walk through. If Sharmaji son joined a prestigious college and course, do not force your child also to do same.
Oh well, we are still working at that! Every morning it is a struggle to wake my daughter and make her ready before time and trust me our living room clock is half an hour faster. Nevertheless, we at home make it a practice to do everything on time. Teaching time management helps our children when they grow up to follow their schedules in time and be able to perform without getting stressed because of the delay of tasks completion.
School and grades do not determine the true skills of a child. Do recognize what your child talents are and help him or her to excel in it. Being a parent is all about giving the support and guidance until our children can handle it themselves.