What happens in a girl’s hostel? 14

I have always observed that there is a constant curiosity amongst the male part of the population regarding the girls hostel. Well…not many people are aware about what happens in a girls hostel and I am here to break the secret for you. Not very loyal to my fellow girls…but secret toh bahar aana hi tha naa kabhi na kabhi.

So here is a list of things/events that happens in a girls hostel:

  • A lot, a lot and a lot of gossip. In-room gossips.
  • No, we don’t roam around naked on corridors, we too wrap our towels around our body and roam around and no one tries to snatch them away.
  • Dirty toilets and a lot of notices mentioning to keep the toilets clean.
  • Smoke and smoke up sessions. Yes!!!
  • Before a college party, the washrooms turn into make up rooms, very messy make up rooms, and corridors, a ramp.
  • No shouting, it is always always (exception: read the above point) silent. No one likes giving or receiving complaints to or from  warden.
  • Selfie sessions and a lot of them.
  • Stalking sessions.
  • Advice talks.
  • Deep discussions about love, life, guys, mess food, guys, courses, guys, teachers and guys 😛
  • Birthday celebrations and they never go wrong.
  • Barter system, clothes, accessories, shoes etc (which reminds me that my friend has two of my favorite ear-rings) urghhh!
  • Re-decorations.
  • Dance and jamming sessions.

Now you know 😉

PS: this is entirely out of my personal experience.

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Hey Woman! Stay Girl!! 731

It was a rainy evening just a few days back. I and my daughter decided to go to a chats corner to eat some tasty and spicy chats. While we were there, a group of college-aged girls came in. Suddenly there were loud laughter, noise and an air of fun. I also noticed many heads staring at these chirpy young girls who cared for none. I have this habit of watching people face and it fascinates me. Every face has so many things to tell. Whether we want to share or not, our faces always tell others what kind of mood we are in. You must have seen many times people passing by all alone, yet smiling to themselves? Or someone, scowling? And here in the chat corner too I started to observe, especially the women face.

What I saw was somewhat sad. I saw those girls, happily jumping, squealing, having fun with each other without a care in the world and not bothered about anything else around them. Then I saw a little older that is middle-aged women, walking in a hurry and with visible tension in their faces. I saw a mother, angry at her child for being stubborn, I saw a wife waiting for her husband who was vividly late, I saw a woman who looked like someone who came straight from having a hard day and got loads in her head, busily giving instruction to someone regarding a party preparation for the next day. These women showed such signs of stress that it was hard to miss the changes in a woman from being carefree to a responsible person.

These women were once been like the other carefree girls without any care in the world. What changed that? It’s easy to brush it off as “life happens”. Did marriage change all? is it the husband, is it the in-laws, is it the high-profile career that you are chasing so hard for years, or anything else?

We might give many reasons, however, deep down I believe it always comes down to us as to how we handle our life. I agree, for many, there are those unfortunate people in life who drag us down to make us feel miserable. Still many a times it is we who let carry too many responsibilities simply because we do not learn how to let others help us. We are too egoistic to share or to ask for help.

Many married women lose those friendships that they had for more than a decade of years simply because of the responsibilities she believes that it is her own. Dear woman, share your work, let others also be a part of what you do and cheer up. Life is too short to spend it off without enjoying the little moments. Things that you decided too kiddish are something that needed to be sane and happy.

Hey woman, here are a few things that you should do to keep that young girl in you alive and not to lose out yourself in the world of responsibilities.

  • Call that friend you were meaning to call for a long time just because you had a fight years back and never got around to patch up. Trust me! There is nothing happier than catching up with a childhood friend.

  • Sing and dance with your children even if you are not good at it. Well, we are not trying to participate in any concert. But you should, if you are really good at it.

  • Learn to say “No” to family demands when are tired of carrying on. Your body may be able to do it. But not your mind.

  • Do not worry about what people are going to think. You have already come too far to build a rapport with people around you and simple things do not matter because everyone is busy with their own lives.

  • Do not try to save every penny for your children. You are making them study hard is to teach them to be independent and to earn their way. Enjoy the little pleasures you could buy.

  • Do not try too hard please everyone. People always have something against when they are dissatisfied with themselves.

  • Make time and spend time with your inner self.

These are some of my ways. But each woman might have her own way of dealings with things in life. Whatever you do, do not lose out that chirpy and bubbly girl you once had been. Keep her alive, give her more importance than to the one which pressure and stress had made you today.

Born to break the stereotype. 1014

“She has rejected this boy too. Don’t know what is she looking for? ” Shivi’s mom said cryingly.

“Do you think Ranbir Kapoor will come to ask for your hand from us to marry you?” asked her father. The anger was quite evident in his tone.

Shivi who was quietly listening to all the taunts softly replied,” I am not waiting for anyone to come and marry me. I want to find myself before I find anyone else.”

His father lost his temper badly on getting this reply from Shivi and shouted, ” Enough of this finding myself drama Shivi. We are tired of it.”

Shivi was still cool and quite clear in her speech as if she was undisturbed by the storm going in her house at this moment.”

She calmly replied,” Even I am tired of meeting strangers and then telling them that I am not ready for marriage yet.”

A terrific silence filled the atmosphere and Shivi went to her room. She didn’t cry neither she was upset. She spent rest of the evening in her room and went out in the hall around dinner time to find out that hall is completely dark. She lit the light and was almost scared to death to see her mother on the couch as she wasn’t expecting anyone to be in the dark hall.

She tried to avoid the conversation at first but she wasn’t liking it either to see her parents in this condition and more so when she knew the reason of their sadness is she, herself.

Mom, look at me. Do you think I am a curse? Shivi asked her mom.

“What are you saying, you stupid girl.” Shivi’s mother hugged her tightly.

“Why will you say such things Shivi. No matter how much we are angry but you will always remain the apple of our eyes.”

“I know mom, you and dad love me more than you love yourself.”

Things were not normal completely but it was at least that much normal for everyone to sit on the dinner table and ate food quietly.

Shivi’s dad broke the silence and asked her,” Is there anyone you are looking for or maybe you are waiting for the right moment to tell us. I know I have asked this question several times in the past three years but I want to know the real reason for your denial to all the matches we have found suitable for you.”

“Her mother asked her in shivering tone as if she will die of heart attack if her worst fears come true, are u lesbian?”

Whaaattt? Shivi shouted in utter shock. ” Of course not, no mom. Just because I am not ready to marry that doesn’t describe my choice of sexuality.” Shivi left the hall in outrage this time. Both her parents sat perplexed.

Next day morning the house was still silent. It wasn’t a usual morning. It was a silence before the storm.

Shivi had prepared her mom’s favourite Upma in the breakfast and have cooked perfect grilled sandwiches for her dad.

At the breakfast table, before anyone could shoot a question to her, she said, ” Dad, you have asked this several times before and I am sorry I kept quiet and have avoided the answer in all these years. Maybe I wasn’t ready to answer but I think I am ready to answer it now.”

Her mom and dad have waited impatiently to hear the reason for her denial to all 15 marriage proposals.

She continued,”Ma, I want to live my life before I surrender it to someone else. I don’t see myself as a wife or a mother as of now. I can’t share my life till I find out what’s the purpose of my life. I want to live. I am still learning through my experiences and I have a long to-do list that I want to complete and marriage is nowhere on that list as of now.”

Shivi said it in one go and her parents were baffled. It wasn’t easy for them to digest that 26years old girl saying marriage is nowhere on her list.

Her mother said,” I was your mother at the age of 23. I never had this to-do list. Your dad has never stopped me from anything but I always knew my boundaries and I have lived within them and so does everyone do.”

“Thank you, Ma, for solving this for me. Now I know, I am born to break the stereotype.”

Her parents gave her a scornful look.

But Shivi continued,” I have decided I want to travel this world. I can’t see myself confined to one place. I want to meet strangers and learn about their country and their culture. I want to lay on the sand and spent the night watching the starry sky and a lot more I want to do.”

Her father asked,” Who will finance your travel Shivi? Marry someone who can make your dream possible.”

Shivi knew it’s just another attempt of her father to persuade her to marry and get settled down.

She replied,” Dad, you have raised me to an independent woman and I can’t marry someone just to fulfil my dreams and desire. I have another plan you don’t worry about my finance.”

She then showed them an email sent by a tour and travels company who wants to hire Shivi as their travel blogger and for that, they were ready to pay her a handsome salary and also to finance all her travels.

Her parents weren’t happy to see this and Shivi could sense it.

She packed her bags and before saying bye she said, “Mom, I just don’t want to be a another girl. I just can’t sigh and say I want to live my life. Rather I want to be a girl who follow her own dreams and breathe life.”

She further continued,”I know it will be difficult for you to understand that your daughter wants to be a nomad. When other girls crave for security, family and kids I crave for my independence, my existence and the purpose of my life.”

“Sorry to disappoint both of you and to disobey you. ”

She left while her parents watched her going. They didn’t stopped her as they knew now she is unstoppable.