Why did you do this, Pratyusha? 2

Oh, 1st April, the April fool’s Day, as we call it. Today all social channels, WhatsApp etc are flooded with all types of jokes and funny quotes but this date reminds me of something else also. It’s the day when we lost a young and talented girl as she went far away; I am talking about Pratyusha Banerjee, our own Anandi of one of the most popular TV serial, Balika Vadhu. Yes, it’s her death anniversary today, Pratyusha committed suicide on 1st April 2016.

Balika Vadhu was very popular as it raised many issues related to women. The young and bold leading lady of this serial, Pratuyusha earned a place in every woman’s heart but was committing suicide her destiny? I am not here to discuss her life, what I want to focus here is the word ‘suicide’. What I fail to understand here is how any one person, one relationship, one circumstance, one event or one weak moment in your life can become more important than your life itself.

Everyday, in the newspaper we read so many cases of students committing suicide because of depression due to non-performance and fear of failing.

My question here is why do we make something or somebody so important that it becomes more significant than our own life. I am not undermining the importance of adjustment to come to an understanding in a relationship but not at the cost of your self-respect and definitely not your life.

The death of Pratuysha Banerjee had really shaken me. I didn’t know her as a person but what she portrayed on screen was an ideal for many. A bold girl with no tolerance towards injustice, a girl who had her own thoughts and guts to voice it. But what she did in her real life was really heart breaking. I really don’t know what she must have gone through.

But, all I want to ask- Is suicide the only option?

Pratyusha was a young, talented and a beautiful actress. She was just 24yrs and why she had no option left other than ending her own life, really bothers me. Where as we have so many people who have survived tragedies in their life and still fighting each day to live. Then why one relationship for her was ‘the’ thing in her life?

In my view, the crucial reason is the absence of love, love for own self. We are so busy pleasing others that we neglect the most important person/thing in our lives – our self. I am not against love but I have objections for love which is killing you. If somebody is making you feel wasted, unwanted, humiliated then I think you must end that relationship immediately, not your life. Kill that relationship before it kills you.

I understand that sometimes the situations in life become harsh and unbearable but the moment you feel like you are done, take the time to think logically. What about you and your desires that you had for your life? You are doing this for whom, for somebody who doesn’t care. So is it really worth?

Believe me, every single living being, from a beggar on the street to Ambanis in their Antilia, are facing their own part of struggles in life and we all have weak moments in our lives but in those weak moments when you feel all doors closed, you are stuck and the thoughts of ending your life dominates you, just rise and ask yourself is suicide the only way? What about your parents and loved ones who will be grieve stricken for rest of their lives?  Just do a reality check is that one person or one circumstance is bigger than all those who love you. Definitely NO.

I read it somewhere,

People who die by suicide, don’t want to end their life, they want to end their pain.

That’s exactly what my point is, why to end life if you only want to end that pain inside? Don’t you agree with me?

So, everyone who is reading this, no matter what life offers you face it boldly, talk to your friends & family and trust me there’s always a way out. Get rid of that sadness and the reason that is pushing you towards that end. Life is a beautiful gift of God and you have no rights to end it, even if it’s yours.

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Dating is cooler than a Relationship….Do you think so?? 1036

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

  1. A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

  1. It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

  1. You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

  1. You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

  1. You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

  1. You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

What Nirbhaya wants to appeal today for Praduman!! 4543

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.

Do it for me…for Praduman..for….for….

Do it so that there will be no more Nirbhayas and Pradumans…EVER!