Why the mind is always preferred over emotions? 371

The phrase ‘the heart wells up’ suggests that our heart is a vessel with the capacity to hold something. When we fill it with love – the heart wells up with these emotions, making us float.

When the world empties it – a gaping hole is left – forming a knot in the centre of the chest.

All of us have felt an overflow of happiness or gripping paralysis of emptiness in our chest at some point in our lives. If you are reading this blabber and you have not felt these emotions, I advise you to come back to this article after a few years of experience and maturity in your life.

Why then in this era do people disregard emotions and talks of the heart? The mind and its accomplishments are preferred over emotions. Personally, except for a few close friends I have, I have noticed people getting uncomfortable with any suggestion of emotional conversation. Groups of people are comfortable talking about immaterial things while sipping drinks and looking at blank walls. Why are conversations sidestepped to make then sans emotions and hence comfortable?

I wonder sometimes that if people decided to let loose with emotions and welcomed conversations with open arms, wouldn’t our friends, family and acquaintances feel more supported? If we did not have to consider the implications of telling someone at a party that we are disturbed or upset because of something that happened – wouldn’t that be easier than putting up a mask because you do not want to be a party pooper?

Don’t mean to imply that we should turn all the parties and hangouts into counseling or therapy sessions – my radical friends with low EQ often interpret my discourse to equate to therapy. It probably means showing kindness and warmth to those who need it on the days when their spirits are damp. Just because they cannot get up and break into a foxtrot with you in a party does not imply they are not worth your investment.

I guess it depends on how you look at the world, but for most people, it seems pretty rough.

Saw this little hanging in a tea parlour somewhere – ‘Throw kindness around like confetti’. Do we throw kindness around like confetti around us?! If I was to be honest with myself. Sometimes….often, not so much.

I wish we could do it – without discrimination based on time of friendship, quality of friendship or circumstance.

At the end, all that matters is how kindly we lived and how much we were understood.

‘Throw Kindness Around Like Confetti’…..I wish we could do it!

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12 Challenges You Face in The Initial Year of Marriage and how to avoid them 536

The day you get married is the most memorable and happiest day in your life, in fact, it’s the most magical day. On this very day, you get a partner for a lifetime. With togetherness marriage also brings many changes in the life of married couples. It is said that in the initial years of marriage are the testing period, many problems arise especially in the first year. Now you will be reading about common challenges married couples face in the first year of marriage and how to cope with them.

  1. Financial Issues

Usually, married couples share their finances. It’s very important for both the partners to discuss ways on how to handle and balance the monthly expenditure. Keeping in mind how to fulfill daily needs and side by side how to save money too. Such a responsibility can sometimes be very stressful for some couples.

  1. Dealing with In-laws and Extended Family

After marriage, the main task at hand is to maintain a cordial relationship with your in-laws and extended family, at times it can very difficult and nerve wrecking. Since you can’t avoid interacting with your in-laws it is advised to handle this relation very carefully and with a lot of love and respect.

  1. Time Management

After marriage, it’s necessary to maintain a balance between your work and social life. in the first year of marriage,  couples struggle with this very aspect of how to spend time together without neglecting their professional commitments. They should give equal importance to a family with work and take out time for socializing as well.

4 Irritating Habits

When you start living together with your partner it’s but obvious to get annoyed with their certain habits, there is nothing wrong in this you both are two different individuals brought up in a different way, the important thing is how you both manage these habits so that the other person doesn’t get’s disturbed.

  1. Managing household Chores

taking care of the house and dealing with the daily chores becomes an added responsibility for some couples, it becomes a serious issue, between the most loving and caring couples as well. The key to solving this problem is dividing the work and dealing with ones share of responsibilities accordingly.

  1. Self-Care

It’s been observed that after getting married couples who took good care of their health while single start ignoring it completely, especially women. This ignorance leads to weight gain and illness which becomes a major issue between partners and can cause unnecessary disruptions. So, it’s very important to maintain a healthy lifestyle after marriage.

  1. Maintaining Intimacy

It’s very important to maintain the bond you share with your partner after marriage both emotional and physical. It’s very crucial to keep the intimacy level high at all time so that your relationship doesn’t feel monotonous. To do so both the partners should work towards exploring and trying new things throughout life.

  1. Proper Communication

It’s very crucial to be on the same page as your partner for the marriage to be a success and for doing so you should always keep the gates of open and constructive communication open. Both of you should feel free to discuss anything and everything you face or go through. As this will help both of you to come close as well understand each other’s expectations and will also help in problem-solving if faced.

  1. Handling Conflict

You won’t find a couple who doesn’t fight or argue, conflicts are part of marriage because when two individuals start living together they will face many situations where they won’t agree with each other. In such scenario, your focus should be on working towards finding a way to dissolve the conflict and agreeing on one solution.

  1. Blame Game

It’s very easy to play the blame game but it only weakens the bond you both share. Instead, try to take the responsibility of mistakes done by you and avoid blaming your significant other of something you forgot to do or did wrong.

  1. Family Planning

In our Indian society, parents think that after marriage the immediate step should be family planning, they expect you to give a grandchild as soon as possible. This can act as an added pressure for new couples. In such situations, couples should talk to their parents that right now they want to spend some quality time together and having babies comes after two or three years.

  1. Forgetting Important Dates

After marriage, there are chances on of the partner may tend to forget important dates like anniversaries, birthdays and other essential dates. This may be important for the other partner and he /she may get very upset and angry, this could also lead to a feeling of ignorance and insecurity. In such situation, the one who remembers should try to understand and not create an issue out of it.

Well, these are a couple of problems faced in the initial year of marriage and how to deal with such issues. But the best way to get a happy married life is to keep on working towards achieving a healthy and prosperous relationship with an open mind and understanding heart and the willingness to adjust and compromise.

Does it really make sense to worship Durga when you don’t understand what she truly stands for? 491

 

While checking my FB timeline today,  I was overwhelmed with ‘Happy Ashtami’ wishes. It was so lovely to see Maa Durga in so many different styles and designs. I was scrolling for more and was stopped by a small post by a young girl.  The post had a small message, a question rather straight to the society.

The post said-

Also known as the warrior goddess, Maa Durga stands for strength. She is the epitome of beauty, power, gender equality and knowledge. Increasingly, one looks at her more as a symbol of feminine power rather than a divine mother, for she stands for empowerment.

Just like her, women in India are powerful, righteous and courageous. However, this is truly ironical to what we are witnessing around us. Unfortunately, the society is filled with minds that continue undermining the voice of a woman and treat her as a ‘second-class’ citizen. It’s disheartening to see this hypocritical behavior across our cities, towns, villages, workplace, universities and schools. Does it really make sense to worship her when you don’t understand what she truly stands for?

And I was…left with no words….!!

Does it really make sense to worship Durga when you don’t understand what she truly stands for?

 

We all believe that Goddess Durga is the Supreme Goddess, is the embodiment of Pure Love, Courage, and Divine Light.

She is-

Shakti – Energy

Bhakti – Devotion

Mukti – Liberation

Today on the occasion of Ashtami, I would like to request all that if you worship her as the power of the Supreme Being that preserves moral order and righteousness in the creation and believe that she protects mankind from evil and misery by destroying evil forces then start acknowledging the presence of  ‘Durga’ in women around you. Trust me, this is what each woman wants to say aloud to everybody.

She is your Mother,  Sister, Wife, daughter, Friend, Colleague……She is Durga!

YES….Her power reflects in every woman!

Happy Durga Ashtami to All!!