Why you must stay away from home for college? 203

Moving out of my parent’s cocoon earlier than some of my friends, I think was one of the best things that happened in my life. Life teaches us many things and makes us what we could never be without moving out of the house and start living on our own. Although I was dependent financially on my parents, I still learned many things by being on my own.

Here is what we learn when we stay away from parents which build you in a way that no other can teach.

1. Introducing yourself and starting a conversation

Trust me, this may sound very simple, but as long as we were with our parents they always do the job and we just stand there smiling or probably not even that. My first day of college, being alone in a new and bigger place made me nervous. With no option left, I gathered courage, introduced myself, made new friends, met new people and learned how to get along. So you don’t become nervous anymore and trust me, that really helps in coming years of life.

2. You begin to be a money manager and expense controller 

Spending money from your mother or father’s wallet is way much different from maintaining an account on monthly basis for the amount you need to spend depending on the monthly allowances you get from your parents. With time you learn to note down your expenditure and cut down unnecessary expenses. So, Money management course comes free with hostel life. 🙂

3. Chance to meet people of all types

When you move out of the home, you not only meet new people but also stay with them. I stayed in a girl’s private hostel where I shared my room with four other girls. Each was from a different place and were studying different courses. The way each one of them inspired me is unforgettable even today. In the three years of my course, I changed rooms plenty of times and met many new people who taught me different things in life. Life becomes a social lounge.

4. You realize you are not grown up

It is cool to shout at our parents every time, “Mom, please! I am grown up enough, now”. But we actually realize we are not really a grown up until we are on our own. Times, we even may cry hoping we had our parents with us and miss them badly to hold us in their arms. But being alone and facing our problems teaches us to solve our problems by ourselves. Then is when we actually grow up.

5. We learn to value the Home food

It’s the time when you start realising that “Mess” is actually a mess and lucky you were when you used to get ‘ Ma ke haath ka khana’. With time, you even forget the name of the vegetables and remember only one that you see in a mess,…..You guessed it right! It has to be nothing else but hostel’s national vegetable “Potatoes”. You get them anytime and every time.

6. You become responsible

You become independent and self-reliant, yes you really do! You learn to- get up on your own, keep things at proper places, remember all that is important on your own…mobile reminders really help, be on time everywhere, wash your utensils and clothes. We learn many good things like we can adjust to all situations. We become more careful and responsible human-beings.

7. You become a sharer and helper

You learn to help, share and seek help from others around you. No topic, no assignment seems difficult because everybody helps everybody. The culture of healthy competition and mutual co operation develops within you.

8. You master the art of adjustment

Back at home, while you behaved like a king or queen of the house, staying away from home teaches you to be adjusting with fewer resources. You master the art of living and enjoying life even with compromises and unavailability of things.

9.We start valuing the parents

They say to know the true value of love or to know how much you love someone, you need to go away from them. That’s what happens when you stay away from your parents, you will realize their value in your life. Not only parents, but we also realize how much we love our siblings as well that we start looking forward to getting back home for the vacation and eagerly wait for those delicious foods made by mom and the minute to minute arguments and fights with our siblings.

There is no better teacher than our own life experiences. Come out of your comfort zone and explore the world to enjoy life and also to learn better things. For parents, it might be difficult to send children away, but we have got to do it one day or the other. Children need to fly, let them a little sooner than later.

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This little girl is afraid of lights…. WHY?? Watch the video! 232

A couple of days back I and my daughter witnessed an accident of a man with his child driving on a bike. Lot many people gathered at the spot and some helped the victims. I and my daughter stopped and helped the child who did not have any major wounds but was scarred here and there and was bleeding a little. The man too, but his back was hit badly to the road divider. Probably, I am afraid the inside damage may take some time to be revealed, though I hope he will be healed fully. The public started judging that the father must have lost control. Either he was driving with high speed or was on the phone while driving.

The truth was none of these reasons and the father had no mistake. The mistake was the car that sped away which drove in front of him while they were on the road in opposite direction. The father was at normal speed but when the car took a left turn and the high beam light blinded the father and he could not open his eyes. This made him lose control as he was caught suddenly. The car driver did not realize what he did or how he became a reason for someone to fall and so he just drove away. Luckily the father and daughter did not have any much damage, but what if something serious happened? Who is responsible for it?

Dear people, most vehicles have an option to dimmer your headlights. While driving in city limits keep your headlights dim and when in a darker and outskirts place you can make it higher. Many do not realize this and drive without even bothering about it. Please, do not be a reason of someone’s death knowingly or unknowingly. Do not take away a child’s father or mother just because you were too ignorant to check your headlights while driving. Here is a beautiful video that explains what I am talking. Share with your family and friends and spread the awareness. Because like you many just do not realize and once they know, I am sure people will be careful.

“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1379

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.