Why you must stay away from home for college? 151

Moving out of my parent’s cocoon earlier than some of my friends, I think was one of the best things that happened in my life. Life teaches us many things and makes us what we could never be without moving out of the house and start living on our own. Although I was dependent financially on my parents, I still learned many things by being on my own.

Here is what we learn when we stay away from parents which build you in a way that no other can teach.

1. Introducing yourself and starting a conversation

Trust me, this may sound very simple, but as long as we were with our parents they always do the job and we just stand there smiling or probably not even that. My first day of college, being alone in a new and bigger place made me nervous. With no option left, I gathered courage, introduced myself, made new friends, met new people and learned how to get along. So you don’t become nervous anymore and trust me, that really helps in coming years of life.

2. You begin to be a money manager and expense controller 

Spending money from your mother or father’s wallet is way much different from maintaining an account on monthly basis for the amount you need to spend depending on the monthly allowances you get from your parents. With time you learn to note down your expenditure and cut down unnecessary expenses. So, Money management course comes free with hostel life. 🙂

3. Chance to meet people of all types

When you move out of the home, you not only meet new people but also stay with them. I stayed in a girl’s private hostel where I shared my room with four other girls. Each was from a different place and were studying different courses. The way each one of them inspired me is unforgettable even today. In the three years of my course, I changed rooms plenty of times and met many new people who taught me different things in life. Life becomes a social lounge.

4. You realize you are not grown up

It is cool to shout at our parents every time, “Mom, please! I am grown up enough, now”. But we actually realize we are not really a grown up until we are on our own. Times, we even may cry hoping we had our parents with us and miss them badly to hold us in their arms. But being alone and facing our problems teaches us to solve our problems by ourselves. Then is when we actually grow up.

5. We learn to value the Home food

It’s the time when you start realising that “Mess” is actually a mess and lucky you were when you used to get ‘ Ma ke haath ka khana’. With time, you even forget the name of the vegetables and remember only one that you see in a mess,…..You guessed it right! It has to be nothing else but hostel’s national vegetable “Potatoes”. You get them anytime and every time.

6. You become responsible

You become independent and self-reliant, yes you really do! You learn to- get up on your own, keep things at proper places, remember all that is important on your own…mobile reminders really help, be on time everywhere, wash your utensils and clothes. We learn many good things like we can adjust to all situations. We become more careful and responsible human-beings.

7. You become a sharer and helper

You learn to help, share and seek help from others around you. No topic, no assignment seems difficult because everybody helps everybody. The culture of healthy competition and mutual co operation develops within you.

8. You master the art of adjustment

Back at home, while you behaved like a king or queen of the house, staying away from home teaches you to be adjusting with fewer resources. You master the art of living and enjoying life even with compromises and unavailability of things.

9.We start valuing the parents

They say to know the true value of love or to know how much you love someone, you need to go away from them. That’s what happens when you stay away from your parents, you will realize their value in your life. Not only parents, but we also realize how much we love our siblings as well that we start looking forward to getting back home for the vacation and eagerly wait for those delicious foods made by mom and the minute to minute arguments and fights with our siblings.

There is no better teacher than our own life experiences. Come out of your comfort zone and explore the world to enjoy life and also to learn better things. For parents, it might be difficult to send children away, but we have got to do it one day or the other. Children need to fly, let them a little sooner than later.

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Let there be no other Pradyuman! 1926

 

Dear All,

This is an open letter to whomsoever it may concern, I am really shaken by the death of Pradyuman and series of events that have surfaced in different schools victimising little kids.

I am a mother of a 2-year-old child and the day I saw the news about the cold-blooded murder of a 7-year-old Pradyumn, I was left dumbstruck. Well, I never doubted the fact that human is the most dangerous animal but the way this little boy was murdered is…..no word can describe it.

I don’t know if there was something wrong with schools or there is something seriously wrong with the school management. But, another point that I would like to raise here is about the playschools.

I think most of the parents nowadays send their kids to playschool. It’s a place where children learn the basics of life and get geared up to enter the real world of schooling. But, have you noticed that there are so many playschools have mushroomed in every nook and corner of the city.

I just want to know how many such schools are affiliated or is there any system in place which assures that these playschools follow a set pattern. It might not concern a few but to many of us, it is a point of worry. Knowing the fact that our little ones are very small, they can barely speak clearly, they are too naĂŻve to understand the ill-intentions and malicious thoughts; under such circumstances, there is a dire need to have a system in place which sets the certain protocol for opening playschools.

Even if there are parameters that need to be met to open playschool, it’s important to check for those schools which are running in a room or in a small area where no amenities are present.

What can we do as parents?

I agree to the fact that schools are the second home for a child but, taking into account the recent precedence, it is the time that we as parents take up the charge and become proactive.

If you are planning to enroll your child or have already enrolled then you must have these pointers on your radar-

  • You must know about the playschool and its staff.
  • Try to stay personally connected with the staff members and other staff of the school
  • Enquire about the verification procedure of the staff members
  • The schools should have enquired complete details about each member of the staff, starting from the teachers to the watchman
  • Enquire about the first aid facility available in the school
  • Make sure that you drop your child to his/her class
  • You should do a surprise check in the school
  • Don’t forget to meet your ward’s teacher regularly
  • And the most important thing, you should observe the behavior of your child. It’s very important that you must check if your child is happy to go to school and at the same time he/she is happy while coming back.

These are a few suggestions from my end, you can obviously leave your opinions and feedback on the same. Let’s promise to ensure the safety of our children and their childhood.

 

 

 

Why is ‘Adoption’ unapproved by society for an unmarried single parent? 1383

I was preparing for sleep last night when my friend Asmi called me up. She was sounding flustered. More than flustered, there was a rage in her voice. It happens rarely that Asmi cries. She is 30, strong, self-reliant and a career-oriented woman. She didn’t marry because she chose not to marry. There is no catastrophic heartbreak story behind. Her focus has always been on her career. She is practical and staunched.

I understood her heart is really heavy else there has never been any place for tears in her eyes.

I quizzed her the reason.

“I am not crying because am sad, I am crying because am helpless and exasperated.” Asmi retorted.

I didn’t interrupt and allowed her to put her heart out.

“Preeti, I called my mother last night and had an argument with her.” she continued.

“I told my mother that I want to adopt a baby. Before I could say anything further she started yelling at me. She scolded me saying, Asmi already because of your decision of not getting married we are in pain. Why are you adding troubles to our lives? If you really want to adopt a baby just forget us. We have to live in this society and will have to answer people around. You have always done whatever you want but this time you are crossing your limits.

If not today, maybe tomorrow you will get married. Who will marry a girl with one child? Such things appear good in movies only. You better start focusing on marriage now. Preeti, My mother wasn’t even ready to listen to my thoughts”. Asmi started sobbing.

I really had no words to console her. Her thoughts were irreproachable and valiant.

But we cannot even disregard the fact that we live in a hypocrite society. When celebrities like Sushmita, Angelina, Sunny and more adopt a baby, we eulogize, lionize, praise their thoughts and we consider it as an act of kindness. We appreciate their humanity. We deduce that they gave a new life to someone. But when anyone from our own house even thinks of adoption we make them go through ignominy by coming up with the questions like is there any medical issue? Are you not straight? Why don’t you marry and then plan your own baby? Why are you trying to shame your parents? Why don’t you understand this baby won’t be your own blood? Are you kidding? Etc.

I’ve read somewhere that parenthood requires love and not DNA. I wish we really understand that. Your genes won’t define your family, our family is built with love care and respect. There are many people who do have a heart for adoption but fear comes in between. Fear of society.

I wish people understand that adopting a baby whether you are single or married isn’t a crime.

Adoption will not only give a baby a family but will also give us a special feeling. A feeling of being human. Probably the purpose we all are here for, giving life a life.