Wonderful Stages of that New Relationship 126

When you get in a new relationship and start dating someone everything feels so good and fresh, the whole world seems to be filled with love. Don’t you start smiling more often? The first kiss…the first hug… New relationship brings with it a lot of hope, freshness, and happiness in our lives. Isn’t it?

Let’s look at the wonderful phases of a new relationship:

1. The Excitement

In the beginning, you feel butterflies in your stomach, you have no idea what’s happening to you, you keep smiling all day, the excitement and happiness can be seen in your eyes. Those text messages will make you sit there smiling at your phone. Right?

2. The Expectations

Hey, it’s just a start and you are bound to be optimistic. You start believing that this was the person you were waiting for, who will change your life, you enjoy the feeling of being with someone special. All phrases like,” I want a new life and I want it with you” suddenly comes to life. Don’t worry, that’s a beauty of it!

3. The Special Feeling

After the initial meeting and dating, you finally realize that you being around him/her, there is a level of comfort in your relationship, finally, you have someone who only loves you and is yours forever. And you get addicted to the way you feel when you’re thinking about that special person. Do you feel that addiction? 😉

4. The Confession

And the day comes when you secretly confess to yourself that addiction for this girl or boy you’re dating. You start feeling everything they say or do is sweet. You find yourself falling in love with this person every day. Now as he/she is the one who keeps you sane and drives you crazy in all the right ways, it’s time to express it.

5. That First Date

You groom and dress up in your best outfit to impress your SO. You enjoy the attention given by him. Dinner could be a great first date. Sharing a romantic meal is so sexy. All time passes and you both keep staring at each other without making many conversations. ShhShhhhhh….words don’t matter! and then that moment comes when you feel to admit your feelings and you say those three magical words’ I LOVE YOU’ and he says….. ‘Me too’.

6. The Hand-holding

That amazing feeling when he holds your hand while crossing the road or when she grabs your arm in a shopping mall it just feels soooo good. And his hand fits in yours like it’s just made for you. Isn’t it?

7. The First Kiss

The first time you touch each other, that first hug, that kiss you had been waiting for, feels so sweet, the first time you physically feel some electric current run through your body and you just can’t get enough of it. Ah, well! I could swear that you heard your souls whisper, ever so quietly.

Still reading??? Hmmmm…. I am sure this article must have taken you back to those times or you must be fantasizing for the same. Yes or no? Do comment and share your experiences.

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“I Fear a Relapse”, Says Deepika Padukone. 1357

The trailer of the most awaited Padmavati movie was released making us wait on a tiptoe for the movie to be released soon which is actually on December 1st, 2017 (See the trailer here). While on-screen Rani Padmini fights for her honor, the actress who plays the role, Deepika Padukone is fighting altogether a different battle in her real life.

While shooting for the Happy New Year movie, Deepika was fighting her inner battle of depression. Although she did not realize it then. Her mother who came to visit felt there was something wrong and requested Anna Chandy, a psychiatrist from Bengaluru to talk to her daughter. Though Deepika ignored it for a period of time, she finally recognized her problem and took steps to cure it. However, in a recent event, while talking about the Jauhar scene of Rani Padmini in the movie Padmavati, she revealed that she lives in a constant fear of a relapse of depression. She said “ I don’t think, I am completely over it. There is always a fear of relapse as that phase when it happened is the worst experience in my life”.

Since her opening up about her condition in public, there are numerous articles written about depression and there are plenty of suggestion available for someone who is looking for help. But, the truth is a lot many of the population who are suffering from depression do not know that they have it and they need help. Most of them try to think it is nothing but stress, fatigue and they are over-worked.

Like Deepika said in one of her interviews earlier while talking about her feelings during the time, being sad and being depressed are two different things. When someone is sad, they look sad, but when someone is depressed, most of the times they hide it. They try to behave normally while the feeling of emptiness keeps nagging at them. You do not have to be poor or have to lose something in life to be depressed. Sometimes the feeling of depression has no reason.

How to recognize the signs?

When someone is depressed, you may notice certain changes in them. Such as,

  • Less interested in daily activities
  • Loss of appetite and weight changes (can lose or gain)
  • being angry and irritable most of the times
  • less energised
  • self-loathing
  • reckless behaviors
  • Change in sleeping patterns

These are some of the changes we notice in a depressed person, not for few days but on a regular basis. If you spot these in someone or if you are facing it yourself, get help. There is no age or gender who are affected by depression.

Recognizing and understanding the symptoms of depression is the first step to finding a solution. Once you know, meet a good psychiatrist and get help. There is no shame in finding help to cure a mental illness. We meet our doctors for physical illness. In the same way, sometimes our mind also need that extra help too.

Do not, I repeat do not ever be afraid to ask for help!!! Because you might be surprised that there are so many good people around you who really care and want to help you.

Marriage – the funniest ironical institution in India 221

Many people would not be able to figure out the mistake in the following figure. Well, there is no grammatical mistake, there is no printing error or any other fault in it. If you still haven’t figured it out, I have an answer for you, I would like you to face the ironical reality of the modern world or the 21st century where the thoughts and ideologies of Paleolithic age still prevails.

Women have always been considered as a pillar of the society, we have given her various names, we worship her, pamper her and consider her to be the live giver; there is nothing wrong in it. However, it blows my mind to see such kind of ideas still prevail in the society. I personally feel that a woman gets a chance to change her life, the first time she is born, the second time her life changes when she gets married and the third time she changes her life when she gives birth to a new life. But, amidst all this ebb and flow of life cycle, why is there a question that she needs to answer every time. Why is there a need to prove that she can equally love her parent and in-laws? Well, if you feel that I am proclaiming something different, then you must have a look at the picture here.

I find arrange marriages to be the funniest institution in India. Irrespective of the fact that I am a party to it, I still believe that it has some funny traditions and beliefs flowing in it. I would like to highlight a few-

  • The first thing that we say in India is, “Shaadi hamesha barabari ke khaandaan mein honi chahiye (One should get married in a family who is equal in status with the other),” Well, if that is true, why this equivalence is only restricted to money, why no one questions on thoughts, beliefs, ideas, vision etc. Yes, money is important to run a family, but imagine a situation where you have a big house, a big car etc. but both husband and wife are never on the same page. Is that the mantra for a happy married life? At least I don’t feel so.
  • Another popular phrase which we commonly here during the marriage is that “Shaadi to parivaaro ka mail hai ( Marriage is not between two people, it is the bonding of two families,” if that is so, why a girl has to put her in-laws first and ignore her parents. If that’s not the truth, I would again request you to run through the picture above. Why can’t both the families co-exist. Although, things are changing, the ground reality is different.
  • One of the common things I have heard is, “ Ladki ko sasural ke hisab se adjust karna chahiye (girl must learn to compromise and live as per her in-laws and husband),” there is nothing wrong in it and I too believe in it, but what if we tweaked this scenario, like both the parties can make slight adjustments so that everyone is happy and the guy or the husband doesn’t have to take sides.

What I have written is not new or neither revolutionary, I have actually started to find our society to be hilarious. We are never in a phase to create an equal world, rather we always pester on the fact that one has to be above, I think this hierarchical ideology is still haunting us since the time of Britishers. I don’t know how much change will come in the times to come, but, even if one person transforms after reading this, I will feel content.