Working after kids is a difficult decision. Isn’t it? 2

While going through the videos on the facebook, in different groups, yesterday I saw a very horrifying video, where the maid who was taking care of a two-year small child on their flat. While working mother was away, she has trusted the maid with taking perfect care of her piece of heart. But what the CCTV camera video was showing, that was horrifying. I cannot express in words how I felt when I saw the maid illtreating and beating mercilessly two-year-old given to her to take care.

With eyes full of tears, I looked away from my phone screen and shivered away with pain. I could relate the pain of the mother, as six years ago, when I left my six months old daughter to join back my office. After 8 months of maternity leave, my office was already sending me reminders to join back. Though I was not at all willing to leave my little angel alone, but my husband and in-laws prompted me to join back.

” Why have you studied so much, to sit back home and handle kids, no never, rather go ahead and pursue your ambitions, I’ll look after her don’t worry, after all, I have raised my own three kids too. ” said my mother-in-law.  So finally. I agreed to join back my office and pursue my career.

I still remember, how anxious I was, that whole night, with the idea of going to the office and leaving my little one at home. Though I live with my in-laws and have a very loving and caring mother-in-law, but leaving my own child, without me, the whole day, at least for 8 hours was difficult. ” Why I am doing this? ” asked my heart. ” After everything you are doing this for your daughter so that she is proud when she sees you as a successful individual.” answered my heart.

I got up early, took a bath, arranged each of her daily use clothes, nappies, diapers, toiletries, feeding bottle, medicines, and rattles all at an easy place so that my mother-in-law or anybody in the home can see them whenever they need them. My house maid also comforted me, ” Bhabhi , I’ll help badi madam too, to handle your daughter, I too have small kids, I know how do you feel. But don’t worry and go ahead.”

As I got ready, my mother-in-law packed my lunchbox too with extra eating stuff, since I too was going to the office after maternity leave and needed more care as per her. But I was least concerned about myself. I was just holding my daughter, feeding her till last minute and thinking what will she do after every two hours.

As I started my car, put it in reverse gear to take it out of parking outside my home, I felt that tear rolling down my cheeks. I stopped, open my door, rushed back upstairs to my room to see her and there she was calmly sleeping in the lap of her Dadi. My husband came from behind and asked me to calm down and go ahead. All through my drive, I was thinking, “how weak one becomes after becoming a mother?”.

The time in what we are living today is simply competitive. Where both husband and wife have to work just not to survive but yes, to achieve their respective goals in lives. Many of my relatives with old mentality found it a harsh decision, to leave my little daughter at home like this, to pursue my career. Others asked, ” Ki lod hai ( what is the need), don’t your hubby earn that much ?”. Even at the office, people were sympathetic towards my plight. But with the support of my husband and my lovely family, I was working more efficiently now.

There are very few lucky working women like me, who get such a supporting family to pursue their dreams and see the world. Family, who do not wish to hold back the “Bahu” of the house with responsibilities towards family and kids, rather be independent and show her real talent.

I must confess, my heart always melts for each working woman in this world, who leave her kids, her heart at home and look forward to work for future of her kids and of course her own identity.

Now, when I reach back home, my six years old daughter and two years old son, run to hug me happily and then discuss their day with me in their own language. I slightly pat my back that with the grace of God and support of my family, I am earning much to give them secure future and obviously a proud professional.

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Dating is cooler than a Relationship….Do you think so?? 1036

I am 101 % every one of you is going to agree with me on this – Dating is quite fun!! As it involves meeting new people, exploring new places with your gf/bf, the excitement of a new bond, those butterflies in the stomach. But during all this, somewhere deep down lays a sense of insecurity. Insecurity of losing your special someone because dating is not synonyms to the relationship. Where relationships have the commitment, dating doesn’t follow any such decree.

One of the most significant reasons that make dating cooler than relationships is commitment. It’s not easy to not make a connection and still be together. Many people think that settling down or being in a relationship can be boring, actually, they consider it as ‘Old school’. But you know what, if you never come under this league, perhaps, you will never experience the beauty of being in a relationship.

Relationships are not meant to be boring! In fact, being in a relationship makes your life beautiful and evolves you into a better individual.

Below are few reasons that’ll make you wonder how being in a relationship makes you a better person!

  1. A Relationship Rejuvenates You

Love is a very powerful feeling it makes us do things for others which we wouldn’t do for ourselves. A relationship changes you in a better person, your partner brings out the best in you. With your partner’s love and affection, they turn you into a better individual. Being in a relationship fills you with new hopes and aspirations.

  1. It changes your Attitude towards life

When single we usually only think about ourselves, act stubborn and resentful towards people and situations. But being in a relationship makes us think rationally and lowers down our ego and arrogance. It also invokes the sense of responsibility and a better understanding of life which we generally lack.

  1. You Start Feeling Good

The best part of being in a relationship is you start feeling happy and good about everything around. There is no space for stress or reasons to be depressed as two of you are always there to support each other and work towards the happiness of one another. Here, I would like to mention that this is the case of positive relations which are not forced.

  1. You Learn to Adjust

Every relationship demands adjustment, compromise, and sharing. When you get involved with someone the first thing which happens is you start adjusting according to your partners likes and dislikes. Slowly you start sharing your living space, you start making plans together and what not. being in a relationship teaches you how to express your love and care and how to keep your partners needs first.

  1. You Explore new things

The plus point of being in a relationship is your world expands, by this I mean you get to know about new things from you from a partner. You develop new likes and hobbies. You get exposed to a different kind of music, movies and if you both like reading then, books too ;). You also get a brand-new family and set of friends and cousins to hang out with.

  1. You feel Strong

Difficulties are part of life, we all face ups and downs, difficult situations in our lives. But having a partner by your side gives you the strength to fight any battle of life. Knowing that your partner has your back will give you the courage to go through any circumstances and come out with more positivity and belief that with that your partners help you can fight anything and everything

All relationships go through hell, only the real ones get through It …So, no matter how many girls or boys you have dated, there’ll come a time when you’ll realize the meaning of settling down with that special someone!

What Nirbhaya wants to appeal today for Praduman!! 4543

They ripped my body…

They ripped my dignity…..

They ripped my dreams…..

They ripped my life…………..and they are still alive…!!

If you remember me I am Nirbhaya, a girl who was brutally raped and left to die on 16th December’12’s night. I know it’s an old story now but I am here today because my soul is in pain and tormented once again…

I am suffocated, flustered and frightened too with news of Praduman brutally murdered and a little girl of 5yrs raped in their respective schools with in three days. My intestines were pulled outside my body and his throat was slit wide open….Oh Gosh!! You can’t imagine the pain and fear….Dictionary doesn’t and cannot have a word to describe what we went through..!

Okay, you said I was out for a movie at night… I was wrong and it was my mistake etc etc but I want to ask you today was Praduman also wrong in using a washroom of his school?? Was that little girl in a school uniform was wrongly dressed and out at a wrong time??

Please answer me……this goes to all those who are sitting on administrative chairs and are just concerned about how to remain seated on those positions forever. My question is to the lawmakers, to the ministers, to the officers….to the PM of this country.

Why can’t you frighten these monsters these devils like they frightened us? Me, Praduman…..&…&…

Yes, they frightened us to the extent that our souls are still trembling. Traumatize them…torture them as they did to us.

Where are you, the honorable human rights people?? Why don’t you stand with my and their and each such parent who has lost everything in their lives with us?

When you say ‘Human Rights’ its is for humans not for these demons. NO rapists have human rights…..

Give tortures ..give them trauma to the extent that each man with such sick mentality should get a shiver before even thinking of any such crime. Scare their souls…scare them to the hell…Do it NOW..NOW!

You named me…Nirbhaya(one who never fears)…let me tell you today…I was scared..really scared and I am scared today also. I am scared for each fellow girl…for each child out there…I am scared!

You made me celebrity over night. You named funds after me. No need of all this, if you really want to do something make your laws strict & deadly for rapists and molesters. No one should dare to touch anybody without his/her consent. Make my country safe for all women…for little ones. PLEASE!

Do what Yemen administration did to a child rapist and murderer. Punish them publicly…punish them as brutally as they were with us. It is my last appeal to you people.

Do it for me…for Praduman..for….for….

Do it so that there will be no more Nirbhayas and Pradumans…EVER!